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Our relationship expert, FINESSE MITCHELL, reveals red-flag statements that make men want to cut and run, whether itâ€™s date number one or one hundred.
Remember, saying the first thing that comes to mind could give your guy second thoughts.
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You Said: â€śBaby, are you hanging out with the guys tonight again?â€ť
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Why He Got Nervous:Men try to maintain the freedom of coming and going as we please as long as we can. Even guys who have been thinking about settling down never go without a fight. Still, weâ€™re aware we canâ€™t have a phenomenal woman on one arm and a buddy who saves his dollar bills for the strip club on the other.
What You Need to Add:
â€śTell your friends I said hello, have a good time, and be safe.â€ť I know itâ€™s not easy. But, ladies, you need to trust that your guy will do the right thing.
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You Said: â€śThe last guy I dated? His idea of fine dining was Mickey Dâ€™s!â€ť
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Why He Got Nervous:Even if you were kidding, your date sees visions of five-star restaurantsâ€”not to mention Louis Vuitton handbagsâ€”dancing in your head. Men stress about dating a woman who may be out of their league incomewise. Plus, broke brothers usually talk a good game. So itâ€™s not uncommon for sophisticated, high-income women to fall for handsome, tapped-out guys.
What You Should Do Instead: Donâ€™t let a guy think youâ€™re materialistic from the jump. Skip talking about what the last guy couldnâ€™t do for you, and donâ€™t ask about his job. A date or two will reveal a manâ€™s spending habitsâ€”and a womanâ€™s taste.
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You Said: â€śI dated my ex until I found out he was cheating and got some chick pregnant.â€ť
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Why He Got Nervous:
He didnâ€™t hear you wonâ€™t stand for a brother who steps out. He read between the sheets and got worried that he might catch a sexually transmitted infection from you. Monogamous men who have been practicing safe sex usually take pride in knowing that they are STI-free.
What You Need to Add:
â€śI headed to the doctorâ€™s the next day.â€ť Youâ€™ve got to let him know you checked out okay after your exâ€™s escapades.
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You Said: â€śIf I even see you talking to another woman, thereâ€™s going to be a problem.â€ť
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Why He Got Nervous: The clenched teeth. The icy stare. The neck swirl. Why wouldnâ€™t a brother get nervous? But what you donâ€™t know is that youâ€™re dishing out a heavy helping of attitude when heâ€™s not even hungry. If youâ€™ve dated men in the past who were disloyal, realize that your past is dragging you down.
What You Need to Add: Tone is more important than words. We all have jokingly said things that we seriously meant deep down. Most statements come off much better with a wink and a smile than with a scowl.
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Do you agree with Finesse? Has your mouth scared off a good man in the past?
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