Modern Day Matchmaker: The Difference Between Real Men Vs. Boys

Not all boys grow up to be men. Learn the difference and you could save yourself a lot of heartache and pain.

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Let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man. When dating, knowing how to distinguish between the two can save you time, energy, money and even heartache. These are the differences between boys and men. Listen up, ladies.

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A man does first what needs to be done and a boy does only what he wants to do.

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“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

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Men make and keep commitment, boys don’t. Think about it.

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Boys want a “wifey”. Men want a "wife."

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A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours, and listen.

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Boys consume. Men produce. Case closed.

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You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy. No exceptions.

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Boys dress, talk and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one and form their own identity.

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Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

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Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family. #realtalk

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Boys send text messages. Men call. Again, no exceptions.

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Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

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Boys have more liabilities. Men possess more assets.

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Boys split the check. Men (always!) pay.

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Boys are selfish. Men are selfless.

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Comments, concerns or questions about my advice? Tell me about it below! Paul Carrick Brunson is a 2013 NAACP Image Award nominee and a 2012 iDate Matchmaker & Relationship Coach Of The Year nominee. His bestselling book It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be) is in stores now. Contact him directly on Facebook or Twitter anytime or visit his website.