How to Tell If You're Dating a Boy or a Man

How to Tell If You're Dating a Boy or a Man

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Essence.com
Oct, 24, 2011
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Does He Have Goals?

“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

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How Responsible Is He?

Men make and keep commitment, boys don’t.

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What Does He Call You?

Boys want a “wifey”. Men want a wife.

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Can He Communicate?

A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours, and listen.

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Does He Accomplish or Destroy?

Boys consume. Men produce.

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Can You Trust Him?

You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy.

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Does He Know Who He Is?

Boys dress, talk, and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one.

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Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?

Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

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What Are His Beliefs?

Boys believe nothing is greater than themselves. Men believe in a higher power.

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Is He Serious About His Future?

Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family.

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Does He Pick Up the Phone?

Boys send text messages. Men call.

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What Is His Purpose?

Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

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Does He Have Baggage?

Boys have liabilities. Men possess assets.

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How Does He Handle the First Date?

Boys split the check. Men pay.

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How He Handles Adversity?

Boys become selfish. Men are selfless.

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