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If youâ€™re not quite satisfied, give it another go. There is no rule that says you can only have sex once or twice a day or night. If youâ€™ve both got the energy to go another round, it canâ€™t hurt. In fact, it can help. Sex raises the level of endorphins in the brain, so the more you have, literally, the happier it will make you.
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When it comes to sexual success, honesty is the best policy. If you like what heâ€™s doing, but you havenâ€™t quite achieved orgasm from it, let him know that. Faking it, wonâ€™t get you anywhere.
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Thereâ€™s nothing like a super sexy, spur of the moment rendezvous. If you can pull it off, set a time to meet your lover at a location only you and he know. What you do there is your business, but we can guarantee you it will be a good time. (Note: Just remember to keep a low-profile and donâ€™t get caught.)
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Now, this wonâ€™t be everyoneâ€™s speed, but we have to tell you that watching an x-rated film together can entice and inspire your sexual desires. It can also provide great inspiration for what to try next.
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Afraid to make a movie? We donâ€™t blame you one bit! That said, whatâ€™s wrong with watching yourselves in the mirror? Thereâ€™s nothing more erotic than watching each other achieve bliss.
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Experts suggest trying yoga or tantra with your lover to help you get emotionally in sync with one another. This will boost both your libidos, promise!
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Release your hottest fantasies from your minds and let them out in the bedroom. Try any and everything you always said you wanted to. Why not? Find a public bathroom with just enough room for two, or dress up as that naughty nurse. Donâ€™t hold back!
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The way you dress can and will affect your mood. If you squeezed into a super sexy outfit just for him, but you canâ€™t breath or feel out-of-sorts wearing it, you both lose. To feel your sexiest you must dress your sexiest and most comfortable â€“ even if it means slipping in to one of his t-shirts with nothing else. As long as youâ€™re confident, heâ€™ll love it.
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You know that little â€śmassagerâ€ť youâ€™ve been eyeing but are afraid to purchase? Donâ€™t be. Using sex toys in bed with your lover can increase orgasm and help you to experience different types of orgasms. Now doesnâ€™t that sound exciting?
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We get it. You’re married with kids and grueling work hours. With your focus on being a good parent it can be nearly impossible to find the time for sex. Here’s the thing. You must make that time — even if it means hiring a baby sitter and having “date night” at a nearby spa or hotel.
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Steamy text messages and emails will increase the anticipation of seeing later. If you can master turning each other on before youâ€™ve even laid eyes on each other, the passion will be heightened when you do.
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When we say all, we mean all. This means saying not to TV in the background, keeping the pets out the room, and if you have kids, making sure they’re in bed or being babysat.
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If youâ€™re distracted, you canâ€™t focus on having the best sex possible. You know what days or times are less hectic than others. When you can, try to schedule â€śfun timeâ€ť then so youâ€™ll be at your best.
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Massaging each others privates before or after sex can be extremely erotic. Focus more on a tantric massage and less on achieving orgasm.
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Plan a clothing optional weekend together where you both decide to go somewhere private like a resort or hotel and just spend hours upon hours together in the nude.
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Don’t be afraid girl, get on up there. This position gives you the most control and is the best way to get clitoral or g-spot orgasm. Take charge and enjoy!
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You write down your fantasies on a little piece of paper and have him do the same. Put them in a box and agree that once a week you’ll pull something from the box and give it a try.
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Break up an uncomfortable silence with a sexy slow jam to set the mood for love.
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Great body language and expressions can go a long way. Use your face and your motions to convey your enjoyment to each other when things are going well.
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When you make eye contact while performing oral sex and during intercourse you’re able to gauge his responses and him yours. When you see what you’re doing is working, you can take notes on how to better please each other.
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If you’re not up for it, you’ll never enjoy it. If you have a poor diet it can affect your libido. If you find yourself feeling lazy during intercourse or too tired for sex altogether, it’s time to add more fuel foods to your diet.
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