20 Behaviors to Avoid If You're Looking for Love

20 Behaviors to Avoid If You're Looking for Love
ESSENCE.COM Sep, 19, 2011

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The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help them.

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The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect.

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This is the “something to prove person.” The overwhelming desire to add their 2 cents to every discussion.

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The need to rate others and impose standards on them.  Unless their name is Jesus, this is not a becoming characteristic.

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The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that people think make them witty.

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I strongly encourage not surrounding yourself with these types of people. The overuse of these negative qualifiers which
secretly say to everyone that I’m right and you’re wrong.

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Ambition is fine, but if they need to win at all costs and in all situations, it’s not a good look.

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The person that feels the need to show people they’re smarter than everyone thinks they are. Get away from them quickly (and as a breakup gift, send them a ticket to appear on Jeopardy).

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Using emotional volatility as a management tool never wins…just look at Scott Disick of Keeping Up With the Kardashians fame.

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The need to share their negative thoughts even when not asked is distasteful.

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The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others is manipulation…period.

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The inability to give praise and reward is just plain mean. Even Hitler handed out bonuses.

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Just think Kanye at the 2009 MTV music awards…if they don’t deserve it, don’t even let them have it. It’s a bad sign when people overestimate their contribution to a success.

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The need to reposition their annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse them for it.

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The need to deflect blame away from themselves and onto events and people from their past; a subset of blaming everyone else.

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Failing to see that they are treating someone unfairly.

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The inability to take responsibility for their actions, admit they’re wrong, or recognize how their actions affect others. Think Dick Cheney.

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The most basic form of bad manners.

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The need to blame everyone but themselves.

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Exalting their faults as virtues simply because they’re who they are.

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