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About half the guys admitted that they had been on first dates with women in the past year who not only did not return calls for a second date, but gave them no reason for going M.I.A. Ladies, help educate these brothas by telling them why they didnât make your cut (in some instances it could help them evolve to a better man).
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This was by far the most frequent comment. The vast majority of the guys interviewed felt that women (especially what they considered younger âunder 35 yrs-oldâ women) did not know how to recognize, accept, and treat a good man.
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It hit me about 10 guys into the interviews that each one was no taller than about 5â8. As the weekend progressed I counted only five of the guys that I interviewed to be taller than six foot. This speaks exactly to my theory that while the average height for all men in the U.S. is 5â10, I believe the average height for single men in the U.S. to be shorter (about 5â8).
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This was interesting. I came across three guys that started the interview with âI love exotic womenâ, and I automatically assumed they were going to launch into a description of some Indonesian island beauty. But they continued with ââŠI love that deep dark chocolate skin.â Just underscores that when we hear the term âexotic lookâ, it doesnât always mean a woman whoâs non-black.
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This one was pretty straightforward. Iâm sure this is not the first time you have heard fellas mention this. Smile, ladies.
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The number one question I get from ladies is âwhere are all the good men, Paul?â In most cases, Iâm literally being asked for locations to find these guys. One thing Iâve always believed (and this experiment reinforced) is that good guys are everywhere. The key to connecting with them is getting out and expanding your reach. It is not a coincidence that, typically, the people with the widest social circles date and marry more frequently.
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What completely floored me was that within this group of 48 guys, I stumbled upon two virgins (ages 29 and 31). They were both youth ministers and stated they were saving their most precious gift for their future wife. So these guys are out there ladies!
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We hear so much about overweight women not being sexy. Iâll set aside the health concerns, and just speak esthetically. The vast majority of fellas I interviewed (40 out of 48) loved a âcurvyâ woman as long as she âcarried it well.â When I dug deeper on what that meant, it was clear they were talking about proportion (so that supports the theory the no matter the size, most men will find a woman with a 70% waist to hip ratio sexy).
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Donât think that because he said heâs intimidated that heâs timid or fearful of you. Most of the fellas said theyâve used that exact word as an excuse to get out of dating someone they were simply not attracted to.
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When I asked the guys to rank their top three first date deal breakers, âtaking too muchâ came up on most of the lists.
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