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10 Signs You're Dating A Dog In Disguise

Could your boo be bad news but good at hiding it? These are the signs.

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Kevin Carr
Jun, 13, 2012
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He Doesn't Bark

Just as you are alarmed when a stranger is at your door, and your dog fails to notify you with a little “woof woof,” so should you be when a man is hesitant to divulge who he is beneath the surface. It takes time to learn a person’s character, but when a man is too vague and mysterious, about his age, where he lives, and essentially who he is, you should be alarmed.

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He Won’t Go Out and Play

How often do you hear of a dog not wanting to go out and run around? Is your man uncomfortable being out in public with you? If he has regulated your interactions to “house dates” or when he does take you out he makes sure to keep the dates on a certain side of town, he could be hiding something. Pay attention.

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Dogs Don't Hibernate

Simply put, when a man is genuinely interested in you, he is consistent. He doesn’t disappear and become out of reach on a continual basis. We pursue what we want.

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He Hides His Bones

Selfishness kills relationships. We all struggle with this at times. However, if you notice this to be a character trait in a man that you are dating, this should be a red flag. If his wants and needs are always first on the agenda, you will be in for a world of frustration. Don’t settle for that.

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He’s Always Sniffing Up Your...

If sex always seems to be at the center of his date plans, run!!! If he becomes less interested in your ideas for dates once he realizes sex is not on the menu, it may be a sign that’s all he’s interested in. Don’t try to rationalize it, let his actions speak for themselves and act accordingly.

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He's A Full Grown Puppy

If you are looking to build a strong long-lasting relationship, you can only do so with a man that is responsible and dependable. Irresponsibility is often a sign of immaturity. It takes a committed and responsible man to maintain a successful quality relationship. This commitment must first be evident in his everyday life if it is to ever show up in your relationship. The maturation process is seen, not heard. Don’t fall in love with the noise.

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You Have Permission to Play In the Park

Ever tried to take a bone out of a dog’s mouth? How’d that go? Men, as are dogs, are possessive and territorial. If you have been dating for some time and he remains all too willing to let you continue to play the field, he most likely either has no plans to, or he’s already, “settled down.” Just not with you.

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He Makes Last Minute Play Dates

He rarely plans dates with you beforehand. When you do go out, he always calls/texts the day of: “Hey, what are you doing? You want to hang out tonight?” If it’s always a last-minute thing, he probably has a lot on his plate and you just aren’t first on the list. Be careful.

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The Silent Whistle

Smart phones are everywhere. On top of calls and texts, there are constant notifications from Twitter, Facebook and email, just to name a few. Today, many people legitimately run businesses off of their phones. I wouldn’t be so alarmed by consistent phone activity [unless of course he’s constantly talking and texting during your dates] as I would be if there were no phone activity. Turning the ringer off late at night is the oldest trick in the book. Whose cell phone never rings!?

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You Haven't Met the Wolf Pack

No man is an island all to himself. If you have been dating for a period of time, and haven’t met any of his family or at the least met some of his close friends, you may not be that important to him. Men show off the things or people that they are proud to have and feel are valuable. If you remain hidden, he doesn’t look at you as a gem. Are you okay with that?

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