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Reality: I understand the effectiveness of popular mediaâ€™s brainwashing on women, but ladies, please know this is patently false. Good men do exist, and theyâ€™re everywhere!!! Theyâ€™re driving your bus to work, theyâ€™re delivering your mail in the office and at home, theyâ€™re calling you to collect that bill (lol), they exist. Over 100,000 men get married EACH DAYâ€¦run the numbers on that over a year, thatâ€™s a lot of good men.
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Reality: This is an intimacy-eroding myth. If your sex life is good, it will rank of low importance, however, if unfulfilled, it becomes a very big issue. Sex allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.
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Reality: This is the most misquoted figure in the U.S. According to divorcestatistics.org the divorce rate is LESS than 50% and closer to 45%. Iâ€™ve also read other studies that show the rate to be at 48%. Bottom line, itâ€™s UNDER 50%, meaning that the cup is half full â€“ most people stay married. Itâ€™s also important to note that the divorce rate has steadily dropped since 1996.
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Reality: There are more crazy people per capita at your church. With nearly 50% of the single population now using online dating sites, itâ€™s fair to say online dating is a reflection of offline dating. Donâ€™t let a few bad stories deter your online hopes, numbers donâ€™t lie: 1 in 6 marriages now come from online.
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Reality: CASUAL SEX DOES NOT EXIST! The notion of simply having casual sex and not catchy â€śfeelingsâ€ť (or anything else, like an STD) is false. Studies from leading biological anthropologist Helen Fisher show that sexual encounters trigger romantic love.
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Reality: A healthy person is complete in herself. Couples do not complete each other, they complement each other.
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Reality: Well, if youâ€™re referring to relationship books, you may have a point. However, books are not the #1 source of content.Â Most relationship themed content is consumed via social media (blogs, twitter, etc), and men are arguably just as, if not, more active than women in this category.
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Reality: No one is perfect. We must be careful to differentiate between a partner with quirks and one with a serious problem. Serious problems that are destructive and abusive include substance abuse and mental/physical abuse. Unlike idiosyncrasies, such as he likes to keep the toilet seat up and is sloppy, these are behaviors you should learn to live with.
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Reality: We always hear opposites attract then attack. Therefore, many are convinced that finding their exact replica is the best strategy for a long lasting relationship. While it’s helpful to have a lot in common with your significant other, maintaining one’s individuality is important. Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you’re with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it.
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Reality: There has never been a legitimate research study published to show the majority of men (or women) cheat. A matter of fact, the most extensive study ever completed on infidelity and marriage by the University of Chicago indicated that less than 5% of men and 3% of women cheat annually.
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