Remy opens up about her miscarriage & her plans to start a fund for women who face the possibility of not having children because they can't afford reparative healthcare procedures.
Earlier this year, 2017 ESSENCE Fest artist Remy Ma gave fans and the world a first-hand look at her painful experience with miscarrying a child on a heartbreaking episode of Love and Hip Hop New York.
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While the miscarriage was one of the most difficult experiences Remy and her husband Papoose have had to face, the couple’s brave decision to share the deeply personal tragedy served as an inspiration to many other couples who have gone through, or are currently going through, something similar.
Remy stopped by the ESSENCE offices recently and weighed in on an eye-opening healthcare issue that hit home for her in the wake of her devastating loss, along with how she hopes to use her platform to help alleviate the problem.
Hear what she had to say in the video above.
Hey, I'm Remy Ma, and the problem that I see has to do with women who want to, are trying to, or either cannot conceive. And this is something that was brought to my attention due to my own situation. You know, I had a child when I was very young. I was a teenager. And I didn't even consider having anymore children until I was married with my husband. And we got pregnant and we were very excited, we were very happy about it. And didn't find out until it was too late that it was an ectopic pregnancy, which means that the baby is actually growing inside of your Fallopian tubes which aren't designed to stretch as opposed to your uterus. So it had got passed the part where they could probably give me a medication or something to save my fallopian tubes. So at this point the doctor told me you would not be able to have children naturally. You can definitely have children because your eggs are fine, your uterus is fine, it's just your fallopian tubes are damaged. And I was like, first I was distraught, I was embarrassed, I was ashamed, I felt less than a woman. And he assured me that that was no way to feel and that You know, for a certain amount of thousands of dollars it could be fixed. And because I had the finances I never even thought twice about it. I was like, all right how many thousand? Okay, no problem, we'll start doing it now. But it wasn't until that I publicly spoke about it, that I realized how many women- Are in the same predicament as me where they actually can have children they just need an assist from medical procedures and they can't because they are not financially stable enough to do it. And I think the percentage is actually 80% of woman who can't have children it's not because they can't physically have children, it's that they can't afford to physically have children and it was just weird to me that, If you wanted to terminate a pregnancy you could use your health insurance however if you wanted to conceive health insurance is. Cover that. So I'm looking at all of these politicians that claim they're pro-life, and they want to eradicate women having the choice to terminate their pregnancies. But if you're pro-life, why would you not set up something so women Who can conceive and women who want to be mothers and women who want to have children can do so. So, that's something that since I heard about it and since I found out the details about it that I have been so passionate about and adamant about. I'm trying to start my own fund right now so that women Who are like me or have similar situations to me but they can't afford it they could possibly get these procedures done and have children because as a woman that's one of the things that you can do that no other being can do like your man I don't care what you Tomboy if you could be a Tomboy if you're a woman you can have children. But, it's like when that's taken away from you, I don't feel like it should be taken away from you because of money. Like people put too much of a value on money as opposed to the value on life. And that's something that I'm very passionate about. I'm Remy Ma and I'm a citizen of Woke Wonderland [MUSIC]