If you’ve been following Tamar Braxton, you know she’s been very happy lately, thanks to her new romantic relationship with businessman David Adefeso. Their connection has brought out a completely new side of the singer – one where she is open to love and ready to apologize to those she’s hurt.

Braxton recently posted a video from her recent trip to a waterpark with her boo, sister Towanda and friend James Wright Chanel. In the slow-motion video, she frolics in the water with her crew before running up to Adefeso for a big hug, smiling from ear to ear. Braxton explains how meaningful this moment is in the caption – revealing that she’s finally learned to let go of the hurt she’s experienced all her life in exchange for true love.

“When all u know and felt is hurt. You hurt,” she writes. “Self inflicted and to others are included. From my sisters, the ladies of the real, Iyanla, old and new Friends and whomever else I’ve EVER hurt, from being hurt. Please forgive me. I didn’t know love to show you love. Now I do thanks to my @david.adefeso 🌟

Adefeso returned the love with a post of his own. He explains that his lady life was in a sad state when they met, but that he chose to stick by her side and treat her differently than she had been in other relationships.

 “A word to our strong black men who are in relationships with our beautiful black women- when you make a commitment to love that sista, it is your duty and responsibility to STAND BY YOUR WOMAN. PERIOD!,” he writes. “Some of what many have condescendingly coined as #AngryBlackWoman is simply a reflection of, and reaction to, the life experiences of our beautiful black women. So gentlemen, we DO NOT abandon our sistas when things get tough, and especially when they need us the most.”

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When I met my @tamarbraxton 12 months ago she was angry, distraught and almost-completely broken. She'd lost her family, her friends, her job and was estranged from her mom and sisters who she loves so much. While her behavior was a significant cause of these misfortunes, it took me a while to recognize that there were other equally valid causes, including being repeatedly assaulted by men in her life she trusted (first physically as a child, then emotionally later on in life by deeply aggressive and utterly controlling romantic relationships); finally culminating in the continuing psychological damage brought on by working on a TV show she feels utterly shackled to due to contract terms. This is what I inherited so I had a choice: to continue the emotional and psychological abuse she had endured for almost 3 decades by being aggressively controlling and manipulative or to be a kind, gentle and loving friend and lover to the woman I love- Well, I chose the latter, and the results have been outstanding! With few exceptions the anger has been replaced by joy, the despair has morphed into a need to help the abused (check out #NoNeedTBShame), and the kind, gentle, beautiful and self-assured woman that is my @tamarbraxton is now on full display (check out our social media activities over the past 3 months since the show was shot and see the new Tamar)! A word to our strong black men who are in relationships with our beautiful black women- when you make a commitment to love that sista, it is your duty and responsibility to STAND BY YOUR WOMAN. PERIOD! Irrespective of wealth, power or fame, many of our women have endured the same challenges that my Tamar has, including physical and emotional abuse, endemic marginalization, controlling romantic relationships and desertion by black men. Some of what many have condescendingly coined as #AngryBlackWoman is simply a reflection of, and reaction to, the life experiences of our beautiful black women. So gentlemen, we DO NOT abandon our sistas when things get tough, and especially when they need us the most. We love them through it, we support them through it, and we protect them through it! #BlackMenStandUpForBlackWomen

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Tamar Braxton filed for divorce from her estranged husband/ex-manager Vince Herbert in 2017. Tamar and Vince wed in 2008 and welcomed their son, Logan, together in 2013. One month after announcing she was retiring from music to save her marriage — just ahead of their ninth wedding anniversary — the Baltimore native filed for divorce.

Explaining on Instagram her decision to walk away, she writes, “Sometimes we stay ‘married’ for face value or to say ‘we did it’ but the truth is…it couldn’t be more broken &further apart than we are NOW!…even on an anniversary!,” she wrote. “You can say he did this, she did that, I put up with ‘this’ & I’ve suffered & endured ‘this’ for so long..but the TRUTH is that this was your choice 2 stay we get so caught up in WE are ‘winning’ in love that we are LOSING a battle that doesn’t have ANYTHING 2 do with us!,” 


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