This Video Reminds Us That Being Called 'Pretty For A Black Girl' Isn't A Compliment

How many of us have had at least one of these conversations with our parents?

Samantha Callender Jul, 24, 2017

Well known community-building platform My Black is Beautiful just released a powerful and timely video that centers around the conversations people of color have with their children about racial bias.  

Titled “The Talk,” the short clip highlights how parents should talk to their children in the aftermath of tense situtaions such as police encounters or a conversation laced with microagressions. 

For instance, one mother tells her daughter that she is beautiful “period”, and that being called “pretty for a Black girl” isn’t a compliment.  Another scenario features a mother talking to her newly licensed daughter about the dos and don’t’s of talking to the police if she gets pulled over.

“I’m a good driver,” says the daughter, not wanting to hear the lecture. The response from her mother shows that it’s about more than getting a ticket: “It’s about you not coming home.”  

The entire two minute clip is sure to hit home for Black families across the country, especially in today’s political and social climate.  

Procter and Gamble (the parent company behind the My Black is Beautiful collective), hopes that “The Talk” will raise awareness about bias and its impact on children and families.  

Watch the video above, and be sure to share your own stories on social media using the hashtag #TalkAboutBias, and tag My Black is Beautiful using @MBIB.  

 

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[BLANK_AUDIO] I think when all of this happens we can feel like it's not okay for us to have fun, right? There is so much going on in the community, there is so much pain. Everyday is a different story. We don't feel right just relaxing or letting loose or anything other than being a part of this movement. Is it okay for us to take a moment for self-care to just have a little fun in light of what's going on? Is you who would like to answer first. Sure. It is important for us to continue to be able to find joy in our everyday lives. And the thing that I worry about sometimes in our conversations about self-care is that it's so individualised. Yes there are things that we need to do for ourselves. To be in our full dignity everywhere that we go. But we also know that we are not the only people, as individuals, who are being impacted by a daily onslaught of news about our murders And so it's really really important in times like this to be connected with community. Sometimes talking about what you envision for a world where black lives actually do matter can be healing. It's the thing that actually helps us move forward to the next stage. And so yes, take care of yourself, do what you need to do to find your dignity, to feel how you're feeling. But also don't do that in isolation, do that in community and in relationship with other people who also need that support and also need that love. Absolutely, thank you Alicia. And Chevonne. I I think it's not only important, it's necessary. Well, taking care of yourself is the first step to being able to fight for our rights and making sure that we're in the right mental space to do so. And And just like Alicia said, with a community, Alicia actually came to one of my organisation conferences in October and spoke with us and I think that conversation that she and the others was so vital. And I make sure I expect the message regularly because this is necessary So be able to have that conversation with others and be able to share their emotions. They may not be able to process and telling their story or you telling their story may give them the courage to be able to process it and express those emotions and move them forward and then necessary fight that they need to be a part of as well.