Iyanla Vanzant Believes Comparison Is Not Only The Thief Of Joy, But ‘An Act Of Violence’
Paras Griffin
We can always count on our auntie Iyanla to, as she puts it, “call a thing a thing.” Today wasn’t any different as she joined us at the ESSENCE Black Women In Hollywood event in Los Angeles. The Fix My Life host looked angelic in white as she graced the red carpet. Her wisdom shined through as she spoke about sisterhood and giving every woman the right to thrive. Her advice to Black women looking to support other Black women is simple and direct: “Don’t compare, don’t criticize and keep praying.”
“Don’t compare Viola with Olivia. Just don’t compare. It’s an act of violence.” The author and spiritual guide’s teachings are firmly planted in forgiveness and doing the work. However, she understands the disappointments that come even when you’re operating at your highest self. Vanzant says the real test is being happy for other women even if they’re seemingly doing better than you. “One of the things I’ve learned many years ago — the fastest way to get what you want is to be willing to see someone else get it first and celebrate them in that. And then what you give, you receive tenfold.” For those wanting a bigger helping of Vanzant’s wisdom, then get ready. This spring she will embark upon her Acts Of Faith Remix tour which kicks off in Phoenix on May 29th and continues across the country until August 2019. Grab your tickets here.