Remember the days when you were single, searching for your soul mate and daydreaming about what your family would be like? Well, welcome to the good life, where being a mom means taking care of all of your crew's needs--and some of their wants. Odds are either you, or your significant other, will think it's a great idea to take a group vacation this season. Moreover, you want the jaunt to run with more fluidity than Flo-Jo in the 100 meter at the 1988 Olympics in Seoul, South Korea. Don't fret. It is possible. Read more: Great Getaways For You And Your GirlfriendsStylish Travel Satchels For Any Trip
The story of a 29-year-old successful TV producer and all the hustling she had to do to get to where she is today, and how renowned director Chris Robinson became her mentor. Read more: Balancing Act: I Helped My Son Learn To HearBalancing Act: Modern Black Feminist, Not Superwoman
S. Tia Brown discovers how her distanced relationship with her father has affected all the other male relationships in her life, and declares freedom from that negative cycle. "From now on my love has one condition: consistent reciprocity. Any man who wants me to call him daddy needs to treat me like his baby girl." Here's what you had to say: KJ said: "I sit here trying to stop the tears from falling. I too struggle with fully forgiving my father and also with the whole reciprocity aspect of a relationship. And what is sad is that I'm a believer (in God Almighty, my heavenly Father)." Patricia said: "My story too! I found myself falling for men that were just like my father, conditional lovers, not realizing that what I was doing was trying to validate myself thinking if I could make this man love me like I love him, then I won." Read more: Balancing Act: Love The One You're With?Balancing Act: When Did Strong Become So Wrong?Balancing Act: I Want a Man Not a Fan
Here's the good news: I didn't slit my wrists this Valentine's Day. I am single. And yes, the older I get the more I just keep thinking about how right my aunties and dearly departed mother have been all along. I remember the day I graduated from Columbia University's grad school like it was yesterday. After a huge celebratory lunch with my family and friends, we retreated to my great aunt's Brooklyn brownstone to indulge in cake and champagne toasts. My mother kicked off her speech by saying, "You have a BA, and MS and we know what's next... M-R-S." As I stood there in my 24-year-old stupor, first with my lip hanging down, then smiling and laughing like I knew what the hell she was talking about, all eyes fell on me and the room grew silent. 'What?" I finally asked. My aunties chimed in, seemingly in unison, "Marriage!"... Read More: Balancing Act: I Want A Man, Not A FanBalancing Act: I Refuse to Hit My Child
NBA All-Star Weekend can be a man's dream and his woman's biggest, annually recurring nightmare. This three-day sports event--which is being held in Dallas on Valentine's Day weekend--is anchored by various basketball games and challenges. Of course any event replete with the NBA's finest brings out a host of loyal, and famous, sports fans. Guess that wouldn't be so bad if there weren't the rampant rumors that the function morphs into a Hedonism-esque weekend highly populated by female sports groupies willing to whatever it takes to get close to a superstar--or Mr. Average Joe when all else fails... Read more: 2010 NBA All-Star Hotties
Last week's Balancing Act post received so many comments that I felt a need to respond. Solely blaming Black women for their "singleness" is like placing all the accountability on Black men for their high unemployment rate. If there's a trend, then there's likely an underlying issue. Yes, personal accountability comes into play but there are a plethora of other factors that erode the potential for an even playing field... Read More: Balancing Act: I Want A Man, Not A FanFor more Balancing Act stories, click here.
When I come home at night I'm usually greeted by four eggshell-colored walls, the incessant chiming of my ADT system and the sweet smell of vanilla breeze scented Glade Plug-Ins. That's it. In case you're missing the point, I'm 31-years-old, single and sick of these lame behind dudes...
A 29-year-old attorney shares how a bad break-up with her fiancÃ©, right after she had their baby, left her on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Find out how she rebounded.