Did you know that giving birth to a Black child gives a White woman street cred to expound on race relations? Me neither. Apparently actress Ellen Pompeo, aka Meredith from "Grey's Anatomy," thinks so. She's married to Chris Ivery, a Black record producer, and they have a beautiful little girl named Stella Luna.
When word spread that a 6-year-old kindergartner in Houston brought a loaded gun to school and it accidentally went off, injuring three students, there was a lot of talk about what should happen to the child. But the more important question here is where are this child's parents?
Attention parents: If you think your 8-year-old's chest is too flat, the good people at Abercrombie and Fitch have a new product for you—a padded push-up bikini. Originally, billed as "push-up triangles"—the "Ashley" bathing suits marketed to girls as young as eight, sparked a swift and searing backlash from mommy bloggers and news pundits...
There's been a lot of controversy recently regarding the release of Amy Chua's latest book, "The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom." In it, this Chinese-American mother of two and Yale professor-turned-confessional author pans Western parenting ideals and touts the benefits of tough Chinese parenting: no sleepovers, no playdates, and no after-school activities, except practicing the violin and piano for hours. Sounds like my great, great grandma...
What a shock and shame to hear of reports out of Oakland that a second-grader is claiming that her classmates undressed and engaged in oral sex in the classroom. Second grade?? According to news reports, there were two separate incidents and the teacher claims to be unaware of either of them...
Just as the clamor for less government involvement grows louder and louder, it turns out that state and local governments actually want a bigger role interfering in our homes, doing our jobs as parents and usurping our rights to teach our children... Here's what you had to say: Marcella commented via Facebook: "I think that age is too young. Children should keep their innocence a bit longer. Age 10 is more appropriate." Juliette wrote via Facebook: "It's not too young at all. Children need to know so that they can understand possibly protect themselves."
As a Black mother, I used to think my battle with the educational system was a covert one. I battle soft expectations, I battle that "who do you think you are?" look when I advocate for my son with Jay-Z like unstoppableness, Obama-like diplomacy, and an Ivy League vocabulary. But a recent string of events across the country indicates a frightening trend of a resurgence of the kind of racism and insensitivity that is so insulting it harkens of Jim Crow and poses a challenge that can't be won in the principal's office...
These days more tween girls are graduating from raspberry-flavored lipgloss to Revlon lip liners and mascara. In fact, they're encroaching so fast on "grown folks" habits that they're using more makeup than their teenage siblings, according to consumer research company, NDP Group. As more tweens are spotted wearing heels and "dating," moms like Momlogic writer Kimberly Seals Allers are afraid of what the future holds. Seals Allers laments the end of childhood as we know it... Here's what you had to say: La Monica wrote: "Yes to old school parenting! This hyper-sexualization of little girls is a disturbing trend and unfortunately there are way too many parents giving in to it." Anonymous wrote: "I couldn't agree more. I wish more parents would take the author's perspective."
Black parents we have a problem. Sixty years after desegregation and 41 years after the King of Soul urged us to "Say it loud, we're Black and we're proud," and with everything from Black Barbies to a Black president, White children still have an alarmingly high rate of "White bias" and Black children are still highly likely to associate White with good and Black with bad... Here's what you had to say: Antinea Carpenter commented via Facebook: "Black parents, we have a responsibility to teach our children to love and appreciate themselves." Alana Weaver wrote via Facebook: "African American women spend over $1 billion trying to impersonate women of other cultures. The apple don't fall to far from the tree."
Recently, Kanye West posted images from a book of early 1900s British children's stories, featuring a nursery rhyme called "Ten Little N***** Girls." The poem is actually the second part of the release illustrated by G.H. Thompson, the first being "Ten Little N***** Boys." Years later, Thompson turned to another oppressed group to produce "Ten Little Indians." The poem starts with ten little n***** girls, in black face with bright red lips, who, one by one, page by page, begin to disappear by all sorts of random acts and tomfoolery -- one was burned up while making toffee sticks, another was taken by a bird while having her tea, one was playing with a hive... Here's what you had to say: Missy Me commented: "...Black or White, some people are just going to be ignorant." Monniej wrote: "May God help us all!"
There's a tempest brewing on the campus of Cornell University, after an Africana professor called two female students "Black b*tches" in an off-the-cuff remark. The professor, Grant Farred, apologized to the women when they brought it to his attention and said he meant no harm. But ever since the comments came to light, several students, alumni and faculty have been clamoring for a public apology, a dismissal, a flogging or anything to atone for his crimes... Related stories: Are Racial Slurs OK As A Term Of Endearment?Cornell Professor Calls Two Students Black "B"-Words
Momlogic writer Kimberly Seals Allers explores the recent declaration by the governor of Virginia that April would be Confederate History Month. It reminds her of the time her daughter's private school hosted a Civil War party where the students--"even the kindergartners"--team up as Union or Confederate armies. Read more: Cornell Professor Calls Two Students Black "B" WordsHelping Our Children Achieve Excellence
Last week the internet broke out in joyful glee over a story about a new all-male public school in Chicago that graduated its first class with all the students attending a four-year college. When good news happens to Black boys, are we ecstatic because they broke the stereotypes of others or are we actually ecstatic because, we too, have believed those stereotypes? Have we secretly given up on our Black boys too? Read more: Entire High School Class Going To College'Education Is The Civil Rights Issue of Our Time' Here's what you had to say: Anne commented: "This is not surprising because there is no reason they can't do it. We all need someone to believe in us. Hooray for them." Lameka wrote: "We're happy because we as a people see the challenges that young Black men have to overcome. Add that on top of mass media's one-dimensional portrayal of Black men and so called "statistics" and it's easy to give in to despair. Stories like this shatter all of that and that is where my joy comes from."
Momlogic blogger Kimberly Seals Allers reflects on Black History Month, but with a twist. She celebrates Black women and motherhood. The writer pens, "As a mother, I believe that our Black history is a tale of painful beginnings followed by triumphant gains. Of course, I'll never forget the moment Michelle Obama became First Lady of the United States. She epitomizes everything modern Black motherhood is about: career success, loving partnership and commitment to being the mom-in-chief of your own family command center." She continues, "But getting to Michelle Obama has been a long and sometimes troubling journey..." Read More: Does Vanity Fair Hate Black Girls? Political Correctness And The Word "Negro"John Mayer Says N-Word, Tweets Apology
Momlogic blogger Kimberly Seals Allers criticizes the Vanity Fair Young Hollywood spread for not featuring any Black stars. The writer asks, "What about Gabourey Sidibe from 'Precious' and Zoe Saldana?" "I could have stomached the photo spread; I'm pretty much used to African Americans being excluded from mainstream Hollywood." She continues, "But they really went too far with the descriptive language in the accompanying story with each waiflike actress getting her respective props for "downy-soft cheeks," a "button nose," "patrician looks and celebrated pedigree," "dewy, wide-eyed loveliness," or "Ivory-soap-girl features." Ivory soap-girl features???" Read more on Momlogic Read More: Political Correctness And The Word "Negro"John Mayer Says N-Word, Tweets Apology
Momlogic blogger Kimberly Seals Allers tackles the hot topic of Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid's recently published comments about President Barack Obama. A new book quotes Reid, as saying privately in 2008 that Obama could be successful as a Black candidate in part because of his "light-skinned" appearance and speaking patterns "with no Negro dialect, unless he wanted to have one." "What was even more upsetting is that the majority of people in an uproar about this alleged insensitivity to Blacks are ... non-Blacks. Oh yeah, and the black man who heads the Republican National Convention, but I'm not sure we're still counting him these days. But deeply recessed behind the media hype and the blatantly obvious political agenda, I did manage to extricate a few critical lessons about life in America that I hope to pass along to my beautiful children." Read more on Momlogic.