Love & Sex

This Is Black Love, Part 2: Happy Couples Share Their Stories and The Secrets to Making It Work

Black Love Series Tout 2

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Charli Penn
Feb, 26, 2018 11:11 AM UTC

Black love is absolutely beautiful in every shade, at every age and stage and in every form. It’s just that simple. How we love is about who we are, what we value and why we love our partners so fiercely and so deeply. It’s why we cherish our bonds, make vows to each other and proudly build upon these legacies of love. Falling in love ain’t easy and staying in love is even harder, but when we do (and oh do we!), the results are powerful and magnificently beautiful in every way.

On Valentine’s Day, with help from one of our favorite photographers, DC-based visual storyteller Dayo AKA Mr. Hype, of theARThype, we introduced you to eight beautiful couples who shared their moving love stories with us and even offered their own secrets to making love work.

This week, for the second part of this powerful series, we get to know seven more dynamic couples who beautifully embody the magic of Black love. These couples share how they met and fell in love and what makes their relationships work.

Get ready to be inspired once again.

Zaria, 30, and Tamon, 29

Status: Married

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Their Best Advice:
Remember To Date Each Other
After the honeymoon period wore off, and we were both busy with work, we had to step back and remember to prioritize each other. We try go on (intentional) dates at least once a week. Even if we stay at home, we put the phones away and just enjoy each other's company.
Talk To Each Other
One thing that I have had to learn is to address problems as soon as they happen. Instead of letting things slide and allowing them to become bigger issues, keep it small, and address problems while they are small.
Plan Your Future Together
Everything from your dream house to places you want to visit together. We found that we talk about the future more than we talk about the past and that keeps us excited about what's next in our lives and not what we've done in the past.

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Their Best Advice:
Arguing is Healthy
“Arguments can actually be an important way of communicating and can keep problems from festering. The key is to always fight fairly. Stay on the conflict at hand—don’t throw every argument you’ve ever had into this disagreement. And avoid saying things you don’t mean.”
Be Kind:
“We tend to take advantage of those we love the most probably because we know they love us and we can get away with it. A happy spouse really means a happy life, but it needs to work both ways. Ask yourself ‘What can I do today to make my partner smile?’ and it will pay off tremendously.”
Go To Bed Angry:
“Ditch the advice to never go to bed angry. It is ok to go to sleep in the middle of the disagreement. Honestly at a certain point no matter how well intentioned you are nothing is going to get accomplished when you’re tired, depleted, and frustrated. Get some rest and in the morning, you’ll have a fresh perspective to solve the problem and likely be a lot less grumpy. “

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