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Home • Love & Sex

7 Types of Men You Shouldn’t Sleep With

Tempted or not, if you’re considering sliding between the sheets with one of these guys, chances are, you’ll regret it. Read who and why, here.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 28, 2020
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The Club Flirt

You know what they say: Everyone looks better under club lighting. This means the guy who’s been buying you drinks all night, laughs at all your jokes and knows just what to say, might not be the catch you think he is in the morning. Give him your number and give it some time.

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The Office Crush

Right now, to you, he’s the finest man to ever walk the halls at your job, but if you sleep with him those friendly, flirty moments you look forward to could easily become awkward ones you’d rather avoid. Conventional wisdom tell us that mixing business with pleasure is always a no-no. Is he worth losing focus at your job—or worse, picking up a reputation you can’t shake?

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The Flake

You’ve met this guy before. Sometimes he calls, sometimes he doesn’t. Some dates are great, while others, well, not so much. There’s nothing consistent about his behavior, but it’s usually the chemistry between you that keeps you taking his calls. Word to the wise: Send him to voicemail next time. Mr. dependable is out there, we promise.

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The Awful Ex

There really is a thin line between love and hate, and sometimes when you’re still not over your ex, a woman can find herself dancing that line quite often. If he’s no longer worthy of the “boyfriend” title, than his bedroom privileges should be permanently revoked.

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The Sexy, Single Friend

He’s gorgeous, available and always there when you need him. Only you’re just friends and nothing more. This is usually the recipe for a “friends with benefits” relationship. Don’t complicate a great friendship buy adding sex into the mix.

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The Straggler

The last guy to leave a party isn’t looking for one last drink, he’s in search of the last woman to leave and hoping she’ll take him home with her. Don’t be her, and don’t humor him. One private after party could easily translate into some very heavy regret.

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The Rebound Guy

Sleeping with a man to fill a need or void while your heart is mourning love lost elsewhere is a bad, bad idea. It should go without saying, but let’s be honest, it’s the most tempting cure for heartbreak — even if you know it won’t work. Fight the urge to use one man to help you get your mind off of another. You’ll both get hurt in the end.

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