“His children are not going to disappear and neither are the baby mamas,” says Dr. Sherry to a woman considering getting serious with her “fling.”
You've seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel All Alone in Their Marriages, keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show Braxton Family Values. Now it's your turn to sit in her chair...
I have recently gotten involved with someone I had a fling with in college. I am having a hard time because I like him, but I don’t like his situation. He is a good person, with a big heart and fun to be around. But on the other hand, he has several children with different mothers. And for some reason, it is really bothering me. Not to mention, that since we were intimate, I am turned off by the look of his “part” – it’s uncircumcised. Help me make some sense of this, please!
How involved is involved? You stated that you like him but are you sure that this is not just another "fling"? If it is not, you must decide if this good, fun person with a big heart is worth dating, with his several children with multiply babies’ mothers situation. If it is "really bothering" you now, it is going to continue to bother you moving forward. His children are not going to disappear and neither are the baby mamas. So, you must decide if you are willing to deal with that aspect of his life.
Stop, watch, and learn from how he treats his children and their mothers. The way he deals with them will likely be the way he deals with you, especially if you have children. Your second concern about being turned off by the look of his "part" may be fixable with a quick "clip”. You must have a conversation with him about your displeasure with the look of his penis. Many times men are quite sensitive about this subject. However, if he really is that in to you, he may be willing to have a medical circumcision.
Regardless of what he does, you must decide if you honestly accept him the way he is with his several children and the uncut "part". It is highly unlikely that you are going to change him. You can only be responsible for changing yourself. -- Dr. Sherry
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