Dating Must-Haves & DealbreakersDating Must-Haves & DealbreakersWhen it comes to finding love, we all have dealbreakersthat can turn a potential Mr. Right into a sudden Mr. Wrong. There are certain qualities that women envision that special someone will have, and deciding what you want from a man is a good exercise to do before entering into a relationship. And while it's important to figure out what you want in a man and what qualities are most essential to you, it's as equally important to identify your dealbreakers. This way, when a relationship comes along and something doesn't quite fit, it's easier for you to pinpoint what may not be working. So what are the most common dealbreakers among women?According to a survey by dating website eHarmony, here is a list of the least desired traits as well as the must-haves when it comes to finding love.Deal Breaker: Drug UseAlcohol and drug abuse are at the top of the "can't stand" list. A man who abuses illegal substances is more likely to cause major relationship drama down the line. No woman wants that.Must-Have: CommunicatorIt's important to be on the same page as your mate and the most critical component to this is communication.Open and honest two-way communication is a key in all successful relationships and women need to have a man who understands that.Deal Breaker: Angry StreaksAll relationships have ups and downs, and women desire someone who can manage their emotions. It's okay to get upset or frustrated from time to time, but it's the way you handle those feelings that matters most.Must-Have: Sense of HumorThere is nothing better than a man who can make you laugh and is fun to be around.With so many stressors in life, it's important that a man be able to help you relax, laugh, and keep a smile on your face.Deal Breaker: Infidelty/CheatingDipping out with another female is the ultimate no-no. The majority of women surveyed can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.Dealing with the aftermath of infidelity causes a major strain on the relationship and on a woman's mental and emotional health.Must-Have: Emotionally HealthyBeing in a serious relationship requires that you have a balanced sense of self and are able and willing to share your life with someone else.A man who is comfortable in his own skin and has a high sense of self-worth is more likely to be able to contribute to an emotionally healthy relationship.Deal Breaker: Rude BehaviorSometimes the little things such as a simple "please" and "thank you"make all the difference. In addition to treating us with respect, women need to feel confident that their man treats others with kindness too. And we are definitely not taking someone who is rude home to mama!She taught us better than that.Must-Have: AffectionateThere is nothing more reassuring than a big bear hug and a smile to know that your man is really into you. Women, moreso than men, really do need hugs, tickles, kisses and "I love you's"in order to feel that their relationship is strong and healthy.Deal Breaker: Compulsive LiarAn honest relationship is truly the best relationship. Women despise being lied to, and once the trust is betrayed, it's hard to restore that trust. Honesty is the best policy and the majority of women are not going to tolerate anything less.Must-Have: ChemistryWe've all felt chills run down our spine at the sight of someone tall, dark, and handsome, but what really matters is that you have that "spark" that signals there could be something more.Chemistry is what makes couples feel they have a unique bond and that warm, fuzzy feeling is what leads to real love that lasts.

Nicole Marie Melton
Apr, 12, 2011


Dating Must-Haves & Dealbreakers

Dating Must-Haves & Dealbreakers

When it comes to finding love, we all have dealbreakersthat can turn a potential Mr. Right into a sudden Mr. Wrong. There are certain qualities that women envision that special someone will have, and deciding what you want from a man is a good exercise to do before entering into a relationship. And while it's important to figure out what you want in a man and what qualities are most essential to you, it's as equally important to identify your dealbreakers. This way, when a relationship comes along and something doesn't quite fit, it's easier for you to pinpoint what may not be working. So what are the most common dealbreakers among women?According to a survey by dating website eHarmony, here is a list of the least desired traits as well as the must-haves when it comes to finding love.

Deal Breaker: Drug Use

Alcohol and drug abuse are at the top of the "can't stand" list. A man who abuses illegal substances is more likely to cause major relationship drama down the line. No woman wants that.

Must-Have: Communicator

It's important to be on the same page as your mate and the most critical component to this is communication.Open and honest two-way communication is a key in all successful relationships and women need to have a man who understands that.

Deal Breaker: Angry Streaks

All relationships have ups and downs, and women desire someone who can manage their emotions. It's okay to get upset or frustrated from time to time, but it's the way you handle those feelings that matters most.

Must-Have: Sense of Humor

There is nothing better than a man who can make you laugh and is fun to be around.With so many stressors in life, it's important that a man be able to help you relax, laugh, and keep a smile on your face.

Deal Breaker: Infidelty/Cheating

Dipping out with another female is the ultimate no-no. The majority of women surveyed can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.Dealing with the aftermath of infidelity causes a major strain on the relationship and on a woman's mental and emotional health.

Must-Have: Emotionally Healthy

Being in a serious relationship requires that you have a balanced sense of self and are able and willing to share your life with someone else.A man who is comfortable in his own skin and has a high sense of self-worth is more likely to be able to contribute to an emotionally healthy relationship.

Deal Breaker: Rude Behavior

Sometimes the little things such as a simple "please" and "thank you"make all the difference. In addition to treating us with respect, women need to feel confident that their man treats others with kindness too. And we are definitely not taking someone who is rude home to mama!She taught us better than that.

Must-Have: Affectionate

There is nothing more reassuring than a big bear hug and a smile to know that your man is really into you. Women, moreso than men, really do need hugs, tickles, kisses and "I love you's"in order to feel that their relationship is strong and healthy.

Deal Breaker: Compulsive Liar

An honest relationship is truly the best relationship. Women despise being lied to, and once the trust is betrayed, it's hard to restore that trust. Honesty is the best policy and the majority of women are not going to tolerate anything less.

Must-Have: Chemistry

We've all felt chills run down our spine at the sight of someone tall, dark, and handsome, but what really matters is that you have that "spark" that signals there could be something more.Chemistry is what makes couples feel they have a unique bond and that warm, fuzzy feeling is what leads to real love that lasts.