Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show," heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: Is my husband's cheating karma?

Essence.com
May, 12, 2010

475x350strawberry-mod.jpg Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show," heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: Is my husband's cheating karma? Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 23 years old. I have been married for two years and I have kids -- one of them being six weeks old. Before my husband and I got married we had a lot of fights. I had a lot of anger festering inside for many things involving other women. He never had intercourse with any of them -- he says. I never got proof that he did either. Needless to say, the relationship became toxic. We had several break ups and at one point I tried to get involved with another man. He was making me feel the way I used to! I slept with this man and immediately regretted doing so. I was not over my then ex. I ended that and got back with my ex, but never came clean about the entire situation. We went on to get married. I couldn't live with the guilt so I eventually confessed. He hated me. I could see it in his eyes every day. I offered a divorce, which I am against. I even offered to allow him to see someone else to get even. I thought it would fix it. He declined both offers. Well, I just had his son, and just found out that he did in fact cheat on me. I am just devastated and don't know how to handle this. I partly feel that I deserve this because I lied to him about my situation. But I feel angry for the way he treated me throughout our marriage and even for my pregnancy. All the while he knew what he did. He mentioned that we should separate until we can get it right, if we can. I don't want to be without my husband, but I don't know how to look at him without seeing him sleeping with someone else. He says it happened over a year ago, so I was not pregnant. But I just found out three days ago so it feels brand new to me! How can I handle this situation with out destroying either of us?      To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here.

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