"Successful marriages are based on people fixing themselves before they try to fix others," says ESSENCE.com blogger Nicholas "Sixx" King. And it's not an easy task to look at one's flaws and acknowledge that you are the cause of your problems. Find out how "Sixx" made the journey from being a single guy to successful dad, friend, brother and son...  For more from "Giving Love a Chance" by Nicholas "Sixx" King, click here. Related stories: Happily Married Black Folks, Stand Up Balancing Act: I Married a Blue Collar GuyCommentary: What To Look For In a Man

Nicholas "Sixx" King
Apr, 22, 2010

aa-man-holding-girlfriend.jpg The man I am today did not evolve without trial and error. Throughout my growing process, there have been relationship and friendship casualties. As I grew, some of life's lessons came with pain both given and received. Being a peaceful person, I sincerely hope that no one has suffered any enduring pain resulting from my growing process. I'm not a perfect man, but I am a man with conscious conviction of my actions. I strive to be a person that takes inventory of himself and correct those things that I know are disagreeable. Admittingly, it is not an easy task to look at one's flaws and acknowledge that you are the cause of your problems. I now know that limiting oneself to only seeing the reflection of what is agreeable about oneself while disregarding the negative aspects stifles growth. My growth has taken me on a journey further than I could have imagined and I can sincerely say that I am a better father, friend, brother, son, uncle than I was yesterday. Successful marriages are based on people fixing themselves before they try to fix others.               "The best men are molded out of faults, and for most, become much better for being a little bad." - William Shakespeare 1564-1616 For more from "Giving Love a Chance" by Nicholas "Sixx" King, click here. Related stories:

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