The debate about single Black females rages on. This time Atlantic Monthly columnist Ta-Nehisi Coates takes Newsweek writer Allison Samuels to task for her assessment of Black relationships and interracial dating. In a piece written in response to the "Princess and the Frog" last month Samuels wrote: "Since the 1960s, marriages between black men and white women have been steadily increasing--14 percent of all black men are now married outside the race. Yet only 4 percent of black women do the same. Why? Black women, for better or worse, have always seemed to maintain a loyalty to the ideal of the black family unit. That's understandable, even noble, but it doesn't make a whole lot of sense when so many black men don't feel the same way."

Essence.com
Dec, 31, 2009


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The debate about single Black females rages on. This time Atlantic Monthly columnist Ta-Nehisi Coates takes Newsweek writer Allison Samuels to task for her assessment of Black relationships and interracial dating. In a piece written in response to the "Princess and the Frog" last month Samuels wrote:

"Since the 1960s, marriages between black men and white women have been steadily increasing. Yet only 4 percent of black women do the same. Why? Black women, for better or worse, have always seemed to maintain a loyalty to the ideal of the black family unit. That's understandable, even noble, but it doesn't make a whole lot of sense when so many black men don't feel the same way."


Samuels goes on to say that Black women should take a page from "Princess and the Frog" character Tiana and consider interracial dating. Now a Disney character is the model for love and marriage Ms. Samuels? But she digresses: "I'm certainly not suggesting that we all follow in the steps of a fictional character, but I am proposing that we take a good, long look at what the fairy tale is trying to teach the children of the world--and us," she writes.

Coates counters Samuels argument saying that, yes, interracial marriage is more common now than a half-century but that's no reason to advise, say, his daughter "to marry outside her race because 'black men are doing it,' or some such. This is marriage advice premised on a kind of racial revenge."

He adds, "If I were a black woman, I'd be really sick of this "your doomed as a single black women" narrative. It's really getting silly."


Read a commentary on "The Black Men Shortage."