If your not going to work on your marriage it is pointless to stay in it. Think about the emotional confusion you cause yourself, and your children if you have some. What message are you conveying to others by dating on the side or having "friends" while you are legally married and living with your spouse ("ex"). Get a backbone, save your money and get the divorce. Or step up to your wedding vows and make some changes. The only person you can control is you and no one else can control you unless you let them...

Hoping that the recession will end sooner than later for very REAL reasons. Being in a marraige that I want to be over but not wanting to kick the man when he is down is exactly like living in HELL. He has not worked in 7 months and even before then I wanted OUT. When he goes back to work he's got three months to pull it together then I'm filing for divorce.
I truly hope that this hapens before the lease expires for the apartment that we share. I care about him and don't want to leave him while he's down BUT I gotta be happy. Giving your life to your children and saving the rest for yourself takes it toll. Now that the kids are gone I won't let the rest of my life be on hold until...ENOUGH ALREADY!! It's hard enough findng happiness in this world ...living with someone your not happy with makes it so much harder. Seperate bedrooms is not enough. When happiness is not a description of your life with someone it's tme to move on. RECESSION OR NOT. It's sad that LAYAWAY is how it has to be done but it is what it is. A few dolars at a time like the vacations and big ticket items.

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It's sad enough that a marriage has failed. It's very sad when you have to put your freedom on "lay-a-way" which is what a friend of mine is having to do! Getting free of the "spend her money like it's air" husband already took longer than it should have and now she has to wait until income tax time to get a large enough lump some to do so!

I know many couples that ascribe to the old adage... "cheaper to keep her" but now by co-habitating in separate bedrooms in the same household even after divorce has become the norm. Some people figure that if you're going to have a roommate, you might as well have someone you know. If you are open to this arrangement, in these relationships, they are very honest with each other and don't bring their respective relationships into the household. If it works, don't break it... I guess.