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Cougar Vivica A. Fox Talks Dating Younger Men


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With a last name like Fox, Ms. Vivica was destined to keep the fellas at attention. Now settled in her 40s, the actress and producer continues to embrace the love and attention of younger men--and encourages more 40-somethings to give it a try. Between takes for her role as KeKe Palmer's mom on "Tru Jackson VP," the veteran star shared why cougar isn't a dirty a word and how your dream man may be years younger.

ESSENCE.COM: You've embraced dating younger men and even hosted the reality show "The Cougar." When did you realize you were a cougar?
VIVICA A. FOX:
For me, Cougarism has been happening for the last five years, that younger guys have been attracted to me. Age is a state of a mind. Many younger guys are so attracted to older women because they are independent, don't have major baby mama drama and they've got their own bank account, so they can pick up the tab sometimes. When the term "cougar" first came out, some tried to give it a negative connotation. But now with so many celebrities turning 40, like Jennifer Lopez and Halle Berry, guys are like, "I don't have a problem with it. She can still get it."

ESSENCE.COM: And what are the perks of a younger man?
FOX:
Well . . . (laughs). They have less drama sometimes. I'm not attracted to a man with a lot of kids or drama, to be honest. I don't limit myself to young guys, but right now that's what's happening. The young guys who attract me have more spirit; they aren't set in their ways. Most of time they want to travel, go out, go dancing and have fun. They are more outgoing and free-spirited.

ESSENCE.COM: We all remember when 50 Cent thanked you for wearing that dress during his acceptance speech at the 2003 BET Awards.
FOX:
(Laughs.) Yeah, that started it all. The one thing that I'm grateful for from the 50 Cent relationship is that it introduced me to a whole new generation. Perhaps had I not dated him, they would not have followed my career, not known who I was even with the movies. Young guys are like, "Yo, she went out with 50; I might have a chance." I thank him for that. He kept my name current. I don't really date guys in entertainment though, because I feel it's kind of competitive.

ESSENCE.COM: So how's the dating world treating you now? Would you marry again?
FOX:
I've been really busy but I've got my eyes open. I'm not dating anyone specifically, but I am accepting applications. Please have your own credit card, your own place to stay and your own identity, because I'm not a sugar mama. I don't mind sharing, but I ain't taking care of you. A man still needs to be a man, even if he is younger. Right now, I don't see myself getting married again. That's a lot of paperwork and I don't think a piece of paper validates a relationship. I just want to find someone who can be my partner. And then if he wants that commitment, we let that happen.

ESSENCE.COM: Yes, ma'am! And what's your message to women who are hesitant to give younger men a try?
FOX:
Don't limit yourself. It used to be taboo, but things have changed and the stigma is gone. I did the show to show women; it was liberating. If a younger guy is attracted to you, don't shy away because he's younger. Once you turn 40, there is no putting you out to the pasture. You are at your peak. Show 'em what you're working with!

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hey lizz... im younger male looking for a good time...email me im in philly. killakal00@yahoo.com

 

Cougar is sassy & energetic!! All haters need to stop and enjoy life!!

As for the new web page, I agree it is not user-friendly. Go back to the old page.

Dana

 

I thought it was just me for awhile, but please DO something about this site !

 

Ok...I am a Cougar also. I just turned the big Five O - but hopefully am aging gracefully. (At least I think so!!). I can still rock the over the knee boots WITH heels - leggings, etc. But...since I live in NJ...it seems "pickins" are very slim. I also don't want to be any mans "suga mama"...even though I do have a few dollar bills! Would love to meet a nice man who just wants to go out...have fun....just enjoy life. Where are they???!!

 

this new version of the website is a hot mess!!!!! please go back to the old version. this isn't user friendly at all

 

I don't like this new website either...go back to the old version!

 

Please do something about your new website it is not user friendly.

 

You go girl! Do what you do and do it well!

 

I HATE THIS NEW WEBSITE EVERYTING ABOUT IT I LIKE CHANGES BUT NOT THIS PLEASE RETURN TO OLD WEBSITE..THKS DEE

 

Definitely NOT feeling the new web look...WTH??!!

 

Aunt Viv, I have seen you in 3 dresses that I want to rock. I might need a gurdle but that's ok lol. I love your energy. You have got it goin on. Keep them lookin whether they are young or older.

 

It is okay to date younger men, its whatever makes you happy. My mother dates younger men but they treat her like a queen. I love older men, its no difference. Just live your life and a great man will be in your presence, no matter the age. You go Vivca.. Love you lady..

 

Hate this new look it's all over the place its so not attractive at all guess I will have to find another black web site to entertain me

 

Hate the new website cover page!

 

Yes, this new look is unacceptable. It has taken away the excitement of looking at the website. Why the change, it was fabulous the other way. Totally uninviting.


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