The Governator, Arnold Schwarzenegger, is at the center of a scandal involving his 20-plus-year affair with the family's housekeeper. The relationship produced a child and lasted almost as long as his marriage to Kennedy clan member Maria Shriver. Beyond the uproar of the affair, there is a lesson to be learned by all mistresses: men leave when they want to leave...

If you're Christian, you grew up singing that song in church, "This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine. Let it shine. Let it shine." My heart melts when I see the toddlers sing that today at my church. Such a simple song with a huge meaning — God/the Universe has given you a light to shine and therefore you should let it...

"You gotta pay the cost to be the boss!" I can still hear my mother's voice telling me that as I was growing up in Chicago. It was her way of letting me know why she had the authority to tell me what to do...

"For me, it's God and then family!!! I thank God for choosing me to receive the gift of you, Wife!! I Love You! As real men we are given the responsibility to take care of our family!!! I am clocked in and my time sheet is submitted... Hallelujah!!!" The statement above is what one of my newly married sister-friend's husband wrote on her wall on Facebook. It struck such a strong chord with me for many reasons and on many levels...

A few years ago, "The Secret" was all the rage. Oprah had the author and many of the various figures in the book on her show to discuss the best-selling phenomenon. "The Secret" came out at a time when I was searching for some answers, so I decided to read it. The most important thing I learned from "The Secret" is its main premise: you attract the energy you put out...

It has been said that, "people enter your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime." As I have gotten older, I can affirm the truth in that statement. Fortunately, I've been blessed to maintain the great majority of my friendships, but I have also had friendships change and some end. It's the natural progression of life. When friendships do end, you might have to do like Toni Braxton and, "just let go and let it flow..."

"Keep your business out of the street!" Most of us have heard this while growing up and throughout our lives. My family, in particular, is a very private one. We generally keep what goes on within in our family inside the family. As I have gotten older, the wisdom of that practice has become more apparent, especially when it comes to dating and relationships...

One of my favorite Patti LaBelle songs is "Stir It Up," from the film "Beverly Hills Cop." The lyrics of the song are great, as Patti sings about making changes to her life since it has not been going the way she planned. The best part of the song is the chorus as Patti's voice floats over: "Stir it up... gotta break it up now. When I think about tomorrow... ooh I can't wait to stir it up."

In the hit concert film "The Queens of Comedy," comedienne Sommore jokes about men coming with warning labels. She goes on about how great it would be if you could read a man's warning labels, much like a prescription drug bottle, to discover his side effects before dating him. The premise of the joke is that men are rarely completely honest about who they are at the beginning of a relationship...

If you're anything like me and you live in a climate that has four seasons, you get excited when the spring comes! It is cold and barren in the winter, and the coming of spring signals renewal and rebirth. One of the most common activities associated with the arrival of spring is cleaning...