She's doing the right things to get the man of her dreams but somehow she isn't finding the one. What will Dr. Sherry advise?

Jun, 30, 2017

You've seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel Alone in Their Marriages keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show, Braxton Family Values. Now it's your turn to sit in her chair...

Dear Dr. Sherry,

I am a professional 48-year-old woman who keeps falling for the wrong man.  I don’t dress provocatively but keep attracting whorish men.  I wear skirts to my knees or lower, don’t show much cleavage, and don’t sleep around.  I am a full figured, attractive, and humorous lady whose seeking a good man.  I don’t buy love, mistreat a guy, or cheat.  What am I doing wrong?
 
Sincerely,
 
Lonely in GA

Hey sis,

Why are you assuming that you are doing something wrong?  You may or may not be doing anything wrong. But the question becomes, are you falling for the wrong man or are you attracting the wrong man?

Just because someone is attracted to you, you don't have to fall for them. The wrong man being attracted to you does not necessarily have anything to do with your age, how you are dressed, your size, personality, or what you do for a living. The problem is not that they are attracted to you but more related to the fact that you respond  You do not have to be the chosen one and accept anyone that comes your way. Stop responding to men you don't want. Attracting the right guy starts with your attitude and confidence in yourself. Decide what type man you want and have the confidence that you will attract him. If you keep responding to men you really don't want, you will not find the one you want.

Once you meet someone, it should not take you long to figure out if he is the type of person you would want to spend time with. In order to determine this, listen more than you talk when first met a man. Listen and watch how they treat others. They way they treat and interact with others are clear indications of how they are going to treat you. Remember, once someone shows you who they are, believe them. --Dr. Sherry
 

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