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British Author Lola Jaye On the Bald Hair Trend

To Baldly Go...
 
I like 'em fro'ed, relaxed, weaved, braided, wavy, straight, curly... Yes, I happen to be one of those women who just loves being able to switch up hairstyles whenever the mood grabs. Even as I write this article, I'm enjoying the shadow my current Afro is making on my wall, while my mind is brimming with the possibility of yet another new style.

So waking up one day and shaving off my hair is unthinkable. Yet it was exactly what I decided to do one misty morning a few years back.

What led me to this, perhaps it had less to do with temporary insanity and more to do with high costs both in time and money. Besides, after years of "pulling" and "sowing," my head was crying out for a break--so the hair had to go.
 
I enlisted the help of the Hunk, who after a false start and me squeaking "I'm not ready yet!!"
placed the shears at the starting point before calmly shaving the lot off. To this day, all I recall is The Hunk placing a mirror in front of me as my eyes chose to focus on the sorry sight of my hair gathered roughly on the floor beside me. It took a while to pluck up enough courage to take a peep into the mirror and what I felt surprised me, this feeling of utter freedom.
Having my hair taken off was cathartic and amazing!
 
I was grabbing back control. No more arduous trips to the hairdressers; no more emergency overdrafts to pay the hair bill... I was bald! Ready to face the new world that was now a bigger and brighter place. This was the new me, the old me, whatever! But another peep into the mirror started to breed insecurities as I began to notice just how BIG my head was. I mean it was HUGE! (I was clearly no Solange or Erykah)--I resembled an alien. Instead of "take me to your leader" it was more a case of "take me to your dealer (of wigs!)."
 
As quickly as the tresses had disappeared, so had my newfound "hair confidence." So what to do? I grabbed the Hunk's cap and found myself, as if by magic, inside a nice warm hair shop with a very reasonably priced wig department... Exhale, exhale, exhale.
 
Chris Rock may have a film out called "Good Hair"--but for a few short liberating moments, I had NO HAIR and it felt great!

Author's Note
Lola Jaye was born and raised in London, England, and has also lived in Nigeria. Her inspirational essay "Reaching for the Stars: How To Make Your Dreams Come True'" was released in spring 2009 as part of the UK's wildly popular "Quick Reads" program, in which best-selling authors deliver short new works. "By The Time You Read This," her first U.S. novel, is now available at book stores nationwide and at harpercollins.com. For more information on Jaye and her literary works, visit lolajaye.com.

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@universoultruth Thank you! Well said.

 

sistas why all the hate???????
We as "sistas" are our own worse enemies. As a sista with a shaved head (been rocking it for 16+ years) and must say that it is a sad state when the most negative comments on my hair/head are hurled at me from the palm of a black fist. STOP!!! what is the big d**n deal about me/her/any woman wearing their hair exactly as they want. It has been my experience that the more a person hates themself the more they project that hatred onto others. CHECK URSELF BFORE U WREK URSELF!

 

I am so glad that the majority of comments made on Miss Jaye's interesting article on her brief 'bald' head experience does not in my view represents a broad church of Black people's thinking around the whole issue of 'hair. My what sweeping statements some people are prepared to make. To the inverted racist who was so vehement in her critique of Zadie Smith, Ms Jaye and other Black British writers. I say read a book for a start, any book!! You might then find yourself beginning to think and even behave like a 'human being' rather than coming across as a self rightgeous synchophant.

 

I liked this article as it was light hearted and fun. She cut her hair and realised it didn't suit her- I think she makes that quite clear in the article! A bald head is not for her. End of story!

 

I agree with Lisa. Pls go back to the Old Format.

 

this article made me sad. next time - wait until you are sure you have something to say either way before going online/public.
either you went and had a shaved head and hated it. or you did and loved it.
this story is just rubbish.
like saying you wanted sexual liberation, had a one nighter, then refused to ever confess it even to the point of blocking it from your own memory.
what is your point? who's learned anything from this except that you are a bit hasty,and uncomfortable with staring at your natural self? please go away.
essence please use people who can express themself and their experience better than this instead of posers geesh.

 

There is nothing empowering about cutting off all your hair. The bald look is disgusting to me; who is she trying to impress anyway. I'm not convinced at all that she is refreashed because they are showing her with a head full of hair.

 

@ Confused
Ditto!

 

PIC... as I said you are clearly un travelled, uneducated and ignorant! Dare I say very angry. It really isnt very attractive. You can't make sweeping generalisations such as this and expect any Black British Person or any human to take you seriously. With such utter rubbish. Come on!! EDUCATE YOURSELF!

 

it not that they are british it that they are afarican and they woriship whitness,

 

I hate this layout, I mean come on, please go back to your old format.

 

This article was lame. What was the point? That she was bald for a second? Come on, now if she talked about being bald in her everyday life and how people reacted to it or how she felt about it, I would understand. This article had no point to it. Okay, I'll be quiet now. Have a nice day everyone.

 

To Black British woman!
Most of the black british women authors worth their salt are married to white boys. For example, Zadie Smith is full of black self-hatred and is married to a white boy - she has never dated an afro-british guy. I suspect you are also a white man's niggress. You come across that way!

 

PIC... you clearly are not travelled and ignorant! Which Black British Writers do you know? Clearly None

 

As Black women Our hair is what define us. We have all been their when we do a style that although it was a good idea at first when the style is done it does not suit us... and you will have to wait a few weeks or months for the style to grow out. Being Bald as a Black woman is quite a major thing but What do you do to cover such a signifgant style that when you have done it you dont like? Lola, Thank for being honest and real! I think you should write a Black women Hair stories Diary.

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