Home • Relationships 20 Ways to Save Black Love 20 Ways to Save Black Love By Essence · Updated October 28, 2020 01 How to Make It Work “Increase self-love so that people can truly know how and what it means to love another.” By @NaturallyJazzy 02 How to Make It Work Individuals should take responsibility for their personal & relationship issues & stop blaming society, men, women, etc. By @sowhatiff 03 How to Make It Work “Improved communication in couples before vows are made. A lot of people don’t discuss wants and desires before marriage.” By @ibanomaly 04 How to Make It Work “Increase number of healthy, mentally stable, commitment ready, family oriented black singles and a way for them to meet.” By @Occaneechi 05 How to Make It Work “A solution for the new form of slavery..mass incarceration..in addition to aggressive education of black men.” By @LaPhonologist 06 How to Make It Work “Black Love needs better PR. It’s not just Barack & Michelle or Will & Jada.” By @YonnieTaughtU 07 How to Make It Work “We have to stop glamorizing the ‘I don’t need anybody’ attitude. Wise people know interdependence is key.” By @BoldBeauty56 08 How to Make It Work “The culture needs to show it as more common vs. being a rarity. Most TV shows depict relationships as being drama filled.” By @RohanCrawford 09 How to Make It Work “Take the option of divorce off the table.” By @Key2J 10 How to Make It Work “Instead of the media pushing co-habitation, marriage should be encouraged instead.” By @imlizzashley 11 How to Make It Work “What if gov’t FURTHER incentivized marriage? Lower tax bills, subsidized housing and healthcare?” By @AwesomeJohnson 12 How to Make It Work “Women need to learn their role and allow a man to be a man. God didn’t intend for the woman to be the head.” By @Only1Maranda 13 How to Make It Work “Put God first!” By @EllyG_ 14 How to Make It Work People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb" 15 How to Make It Work More conversations about marriage and forums by married couples…that keep the convo real! By @myriadthatisme 16 How to Make It Work People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb 17 How to Make It Work “We need to give black women sufficient reason to begin respecting us again by becoming better men (husbands, fathers, providers).” By @jimitweets 18 How to Make It Work “In this INSTANT society Teach commitment, sticktoitiveness, conflict resolution, empathy, diversity & CARE!” By @UrbanDialog 19 How to Make It Work “Emphasize the spiritual significance of the covenant over the legal significance of the contract.” By @BWSchick 20 How to Make It Work “Change the belief that marriage marks the end of “life”, fun and freedom. By @Maleywood 21 How to Make It Work “Be honest about whether we’re truly willing to do what it takes to make love work, which involves selflessness & sacrifice.” By @Mr_Squires 22 I’m Here for You Need more advice? Just ask. Find me on Twitter or Facebook now.