ESSENCE.com Exclusive: The Sean "Diddy" Combs and Kim Porter Interview Continued
It's the interview that everyone is talking about, but you still haven't heard it all. There was so much more to their story that we couldn’t squeeze it all into the magazine. Get more comments from the couple —from Sean’s favorite form of intimacy and Kim’s take on being monogamous to their relationship’s new bond— only on ESSENCE.com.
By Jeannine Amber


Credit: Sandra Martin
Sean "Diddy" Combs and Kim Porter at the Oct. 6 ESSENCE cover shoot.

Kim on the early days of their relationship:

"You’d think he wouldn’t be the type of guy who would open the door, but he was doing little things like opening the door, closing the door. Even when he would be off doing his thing he would come by and say: 'Are you okay? Do you need anything?' Knowing his character, being attentive was something I wouldn’t expect from him. So when he did things like that, it made me say 'Okay.' But more than that, we could talk to each other about anything. It was very comfortable. What’s enabled us to sustain our relationship is that we can still talk like that. We have a friendship. These days people don’t have the patience to nurture a relationship or a friendship."

Sean on being intimate with Kim:

"I love to kiss her. I love to make out with her. I love sippin’ on her lips and looking into her eyes. I appreciate her. Every time I see her it’s like I just met her. She has a spell on me."

Kim on monogamy:

"I’d like to think that a man or a woman could be faithful because when two people make a commitment, they should be monogamous. But I don’t think that’s realistic. I really don’t. I’d hope in my relationship I’m enough of a woman for my man; or that I could give him what he needs. When men cheat, a lot of times I feel, it’s not for sex. Maybe they’re not getting something from their woman they want. So I try and make sure in my relationship that I’m giving my man everything he needs. Whether it’s being a friend, a homegirl, a therapist, or a mom, I’m going to be all those things for him. But if he makes a choice, and he decides to stray, he has to answer to God on that one."

Sean and Kim on their relationship’s new bond:

Sean: "There’s some good and there’s some bad; but our good is just so strong. I’m not perfect. But, she’s definitely made me better."

Kim: "We had a rebirth of our relationship. Back then, that was an ugly period, but time heals all wounds. And, you know, one thing about love—if it’s true love—it will prevail. Our relationship is definitely a testimony in that."

Kim on when she and Sean are getting married:

"When we do, it’ll be a wonderful thing, a beautiful thing. But that’s just not now. When it’s time we’ll know it, and we’ll do it."

Wondering what went on behind the scences of the photo shoot? Check out a photo gallery from the cover shoot at the Hotel on Rivington. Plus, read an excerpt of "No Ordinary Love" from the December issue of ESSENCE, on newsstands on Nov. 11, 2006.

Now that you have heard Sean "Diddy" Combs and Kim Porter's description of their relationship, are you surprised by it? Talk about it on our boards.




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-5 latest comments

Thankyou for portraying this intimate interview between Sean and Kim. For some reason this interview seemed different to other celebrity interview which I have read in the past as it seemed genuine. I applaud Kim for being strong and believing in true love but also a fool for not being stronger when he left her for another woman. If after 12 years diddy is not ready for marriage then he may never be (which is the case for many black men), I dont think that this is a good portrayl for children of todaywho continue to have

-michelle - UK

i adored your interview with Diddy and Kim Porter, the photographs were amazing, and the story is truly inspiring but still realistic. It seems that Kim can stand on her own two with ease but is still willing to love and support her man from behind the scenes. She exemplifies what a southern woman is all about.

-Houston, TX

I've been married for 17years New York met the South. We met on vacation got married six months later and he strayed but I saw a man that was not show how to be a man or accept love so I waited patiently and he is the most loving man I've met. He feel in love and that is better. Kim I applaud you but marriage is good honorable with Jesus it is the same working. If you good to go through have the kids you even better as Mrs. Combs. It is give a take no perfect person is out here take it from someone who has friends divor

-Sharon Jones, Mississippi

Kim and Diddy let haters hate - that's their jobs!! Kim believes in standing by her man. She sees the good and the bad in him and still thinks he is worth it, but instead of praising her for that you dog her for not getting upset since he doesn't want toget married yet. Regular women put up with far worse than that and never leave or just go ahead and marry him. Sweep around your own door-step before criticizing somebody elses.

-Symone, Suitland, MD

It's a shame that in today's society that people can't appreciate two people trying to build a beautiful black family. No I'm not a diddy fan, but I am a fan of a black man trying to better himself. Sisters are always trying to dog a brother for the wrong he does, but never appreciates when he tries to do right.With marriages falling aaprt everyday, the last thing they need to do is get married if they aren't ready for that type of committment. Marriage should be for keeps, not for a year or two, or for the current season.

-TS Calhoun