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It is devastating when you meet someome and your romance is like that from a fairy tale romance and suddenly after 10 months of involvement this man was layed off his job of 21 years and had to relocate back to my residence 70 miles away.Due to the circumstances after about six weeks I am told by my mate that he is talkin to someone elese, I asked for closure and all he could say was it was not his intentions to hurt me and he was sorry and he should have handled the situation different. I say to the women protect your heart
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-gainesville,florida
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i just watched the whole night of primaries on may 6th 2008 and i know and anyone else that watched this primary knows that barack obama won indiana. the cable news said themselves 13 counties in indiana ( mostly african-american urban areas ) did not have enough ballots and the votes were not tally up all night and their polls were the first to close before north carolina. i stayed up all night because indiana was another florida in 2000. urban inner cities with african american votes where not counted in indiana. this sick
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-johnson - new bedford ,ma
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It hurt me deeply to read about this selfish egotistical man who received some insane advice from his father because this women loved him more he didn't have to give anything but mere pittance to the relationship that is why he saw fault at every action of hers he did not allow her to be human she had to be perfect. I think it was cruel of him to try and control her because she did what any women would love to do with her man and that is love him with her whole heart and not half a heartlike he did towards her. Shame on you
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-Janet
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I'd like to have access to buying some of the beautiful styles worn by the various celebrity cover models in your issues, could you please make this information accessible to the public consumer?
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-Joy
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After love is gone: It is obvious love was not there to start with. Since I was a teenager growing in Haiti I heard this advise giving to women "Marry a man who loves you more than you love him." It was given to protect young women from making a foolish mistake by marrying men they are in love with but are not good for them. Meaning those men will treat them with the respect and love they deserved to be love. When an Haitian woman loves a man who is devoted to her, he is treated as a king in most marriages. In his case d
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-Marie, Morrow, GA
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Ad: Guerilla Soul is her for the long haul.
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-Germaine
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I was extremely impressed by guerillasoul.com in this month's essence.I applaud all of those creative designers who take the time to design unique bags, accessories, and clothes that no one else will have.That's impressive!Guerilla Soul is a breath of fresh air, pure air.I thank you Essence for giving new and upcoming designers a platform to display their works of art. Frequently, we only hear of designers that are known.It's important that we make way for designers like Guerilla Soul because this kind of soul is here for t
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-Germaine
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I was extremely impressed by guerillasoul.com in this month's essence. I applaud all of those creative designers who take the time to design unique bags, accessories, and clothes that no one else will have. That's impressive! Guerilla Soul is a breath offresh air, pure air. I thank you Essence for giving new and upcoming designers a platform to display their works of art. Frequently, we only hear of designers that are known. It's important that we make way for designers like Guerilla Soul because this kind of soul is here f
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-Germaine
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I was extremely impressed by guerillasoul.com in this month's essence. I applaud all of those creative designers who take the time to design unique bags, accessories, and clothes that no one else will have. That's impressive! Guerilla Soul is a breathof fresh air, pure air. I thank you Essence for giving new and upcoming designers a platform to display their works of art. Frequently, we only hear of designers that are known. It's important that we make way for designers like Guerilla Soul because this kind of soul is
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-Germaine
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"After the Love is Gone" There are many things wrong with this situation. The man immediately proves that he married for lust and not love He was told by his father to allow the woman to love him more. Therefore he put himself in a situation on denialin the begining. How can you expect to get all that you want when you don't give your all. What about him? What changes did he go thru? What are some of things she didn't like about him. I'm glad she filed for divorce, because he appeared to be selfish. Grow up Doc.
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-Valarie - Jacksonville,FL
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As always I picked this months Essence and saw the beautiful Laila Ali on the cover. That is one fierce sista. In addition I was in awe of the handbags created by Guerilla Soul by Sarah Djarnie. I went onto her website and was blown away. I told all my friends and we will definitely be supporting this woman. Thanks to Essence for spotlighting new innovative artists.
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-Karen-Mississippi
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Its easy to say "for better or for worse", but until you find yourself in a marriage without love, this story is realistic and such events happen more than people realize. While it be painful while encountering the situation, the woman and man are both free to experience love as it is meant to be experienced according to their needs and desires. How many would stay trapped in a loveless marriage for 50 or more years?
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-lashon
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Could this man in "after the love has gone" be anymore childlike? The marriage in it's entirety was an insult. I pray that she finds better and NEVER takes him back. The day will come when he DOES regret his actions and mindset and will wish that hegrew up sooner.
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-best wishes
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I just read on his mind. This brother clearly forgot his wedding vows-for better or worse!!! Hopefully his ex-wife will find a man who is worhty of her and her love and as long as her ex continues to think as he does all he will find is superficial fakeness.
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-Terri
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I just read after the love is gone,and I wonder what makes this self-righteous man think she would want him back? He has been nothing but selfish and superficial throughout the entire relationship. Did he ever plan on loving the woman he married and not the shell of the woman? He seems to have been more interested in the concept of marriage rather than finding a sole-mate. What was this whole thing about-marrying someone who loved HIM more? His lack of regret at destroying three lives tells more of his immaturity and se
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-Taylor in Memphis
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While reading "after the love is gone" all i could think was that he couldn't possibly question why things did not work between he and his wife. The things that attracted him seemed to be solely tied to her physical appearance, which yes that is the first thing we see, but it seemed as though he was counting on her looks to carry them through the marriage. Gentlemen it is essential to check all areas, as well as us women. It is also up to us to be totally honest, if i couldn't cook you better believe he was going to know way
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-Brenee'
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I just finished reading the article After The Love Is Gone and the one good thing I can say about this gentleman is atleast he was honest about the way he felt about his wife. She may not see it this way but he divored her and left her free to find someone who was really worth her time and effort. The one thing that surprised me most is that he seemed perplexed at the fact that his marriage ended. Maybe it's just me but I didn't see one time in the article where he said he loved his wife. He said he marrie
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-Simone
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I have just finish reading the article in this months issue titled "After the love is gone". While reading, it became so clear to me that the person writing took no responsibility for the way he was feeling. Wanting to be in control is the major issue here. This man was and is totally ruled by things that could change at any given moment. Marriage is give and take,one big compromise. The unfortunate thing is that the writer could not see that his wife was a giver the whole time. She gave her body unselfishly to give him the
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-Chevelle Couch
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I loved your article on Susan Taylor. She is such an accomplished woman. Her mentoring program sounds wonderful, I can't wait to see it really take off!
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-Leah Oviedo
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I read "After the love is gone" I did not get upset at the brother, but what do you do when you have been tricked and trapped into a loveless marriage? A very close friend of my was extorted and blackmailed into signing a contract where he agreed to marry and impregnate a woman that he does not love. That is the only way he will get custody of his children back from his corrupt family member. So I do understand why the brother parted ways. Why stay if you are not happy? You will only make everyone unhappy. If anyone kno
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-Deborah
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To those who came to Essence.com looking for more information on Black Paris, try the following links: Black Paris Divas www.blackparisdivas.com Cafe de la Soul * Your Black Paris Portal www.cafedelasoul.com Black Paris Tours www.tomtmusic.com/id24.htm
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-Lisa B.
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2008 and Beyond. I recently read the news story "It Happened One Night" and I also had the opportunity to view the segment on 20/20. It is a shame that we still live in a society where we have to deal with lies, deception and blatant racism. We must do better as a people! Thank you for the ongoing coverage of this story. My prayers goes out to both families.
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-Kimberly F. Brown- Cleveland, Ohio
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Where is the information on the Generation Next Scholarship? The website listed in this month's issue of Essence does not contain any information on it.
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-Nicole
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i made the mistake of reading 'after the love is gone' during my lunch break at work today. i spent the afternoon furious. how can a human being be so self-centered and shallow. i bet he is not prize either. it is men like him that give other good men a bad name.
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-Anonymous
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Reading "After the Love is Gone" left one question in my mind. How can someone be so superficial? Throughout the whole article one word resonated and it was the word "I". Brother, there are two people in a marriage. You were not completely happy because you chose your "safe choice" instead of connecting with someone that you were truly compatible with. How could you put someone else through your charade...pretending to be someone you were not.
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-me
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I was just reading the article on the AIDS statistics and ultimate epidemic here in Washington, DC. It's astonishing how prevalent the disease is and how utterly unconcerned some people are about its rapid spread. This article has inspired me to become more involved in the educational outreach and assistance to our youth, less fortunate and overall population. Where can I get more information on how to participate here in DC? Thank you again Essence for enlightening me on an issue that affecting our communities.
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-Ebbonie -Washington, DC
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I agree, i love the Loc makeover!!! I would love to find a stylist who lives in Toronto, but if i have to come to New York...I'm just a drive away! Do you have any links in Toronto, Canada??!!
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-Natoya H
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I read the article After the love Is Gone. This person is a poor excuse for a man. I feel sorry for his next victim. He has not experienced love and never will as long as he heeds his fathers advise. Love is there through thick and thin. Being late for adate, getting older, losing a job,or getting sick. Nothing mentioned in the article convinces me that he was anything except a coward, educated fool and shallow man. He needs to find someone like himself.
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-cynthia Williamson
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I loved the hair section this month. Specifically the locs cut into a bob. How do I find out who the stylist is?
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-Joy
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I just read after the love is gone and I sympathize with him. It's tough to walk away from a relationship, but it's tougher to stay if you're not happy. Sometimes you can get along better not being together. Being a father is permanent. Being a husband isn't always.
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-G Shuler, Moline IL
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I, too, read TO PARIS WITH LOVE and came to Essence.com to find out more information. Unfortunately, I could not find anything. Luckily, I am not going until this summer so I have time to research other avenues.
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-AP
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I just read "After The Love is Gone". How pompous and self serving this anonymous man is. After having admitted that he never loved his wife, that she was a "safe" choice. He never put any love and care into this marraige. Thank God his ex-wife has gone on with her life. This man will never have a meaningful relationship as long as he holds on to his haughty, pompous, shallow beliefs of love and relationship.
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-sallie tanksley
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I just read "After The Love is Gone". How pompous and self serving this anonymous man is. After having admitted that he never loved his wife, that she was a "safe" choice. He never put any love and care into this marraige. Thank God his ex-wife has gone on with her life. This man will never have a meaningful relationship as long as he holds on to his haughty, pompous, shallow belifs of love and relationship.
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-sallie tanksley
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I read the TO PARIS WITH LOVE article and thought that it was wonderful. I am going to Paris this spring and followed the article's suggestion to visit Essence.com to get contact information. Since, this is my 1st trip, I really wanted more detailed help than what I finding in guide books. Unfortunately, I could not find any additional information on Essence.com. I even used the search engine, but nothing relating to this Paris article came up. Since I was really interested, I did a search online and came across Black D
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-nicole robinson-hamilton
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