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I am having a simialar problem, my husbands ex is best friends with my husbands sister. She has hated me since the day I entered the picture, she wanted them back together. My husband loved me dearly, up until the time he started getting bored with me, now suddenly he finds every fault with me he can. I looked at his cell phone and found out the minute he leaves the house that he calls her, after confronting him, he now hides his phone and deletes the calls. He is 35 and I am 46, he has 2 kids with her. His oldest daughter s

-Kim

Maybe because my "ex boyfriend-friend" and I were high school sweethearts and friends for 2 years before we started dating, is why i have a different take on this. There's absolutely no physical attraction between us at all and its like we are best friends. Shared our ups and downs and know each other well. We've each shared with our partners the truth behind the evolution of our relationship and there have been no problems. I'm going to be his "best girl" at his upcoming wedding and have gone out with his fiance, who is

-chocolate jerseygirl

wow. my boyfriend's ex wife called him, which is fine, they have kids. but it was some drama goin on about her new husband wantin to put the kids and her out and the kids were callin him and everybody was upset. well, he went 1100 minutes over on the phone, which is in my name and he has a line on it, making the bill 847.00. says he didn't realize he was talking that long. the bill freaked me out, but nowhere near as much as that's the only way i found out about the drama. i'm not working now, cause i started school and his

-cake lady

I feel like once you have parted your ways then u need to move on. Why are u still holding on too what u had in the past? I had the same problem with my man. I wasn't trying too hear it at all. I feel like this be up front and honest about it all.

-Anonymous

Most of my exes have gotten married, but still manage to track me down and call me (often)! Get a clue...they start off talking to me like "oh just wondering how you were doing" and eventually move to trying to get me to be with them on the side. I thinkabout how I would feel if I were the wife. It's never innocent if you have to keep it a secret.

-Remaining Anonymous

Matthew 19:5 When two are married you leave your mother and father and cleave to eachother.... not family, friends, children or EXES! I think this man has already shown where his heart lies and unfortunately it is not with his wife. His bond and friendship with the EX is so strong that he didn't find it necessary to even tell his wife what's going on with her future in-laws. All these things are sure signs that although he's in the home with her and the children his heart is in Arizona. If a man truely loves a woman he'l

-Getta

I feel once we are married i should be your friend and nothing should be a secret. Without trust you dont have anything. Communication plays a big role in any relation being married or just dating. i think alot of people cant define the word " FRIEND ". Its not somebody whom you have had some type of itimacy with in your past those are called " JUST IN CASE" when things dont work out you can call them right up. When i get married these are some of the issue that would need to brought to the table for discussion. Being hones

-lady leo

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-Esmie dennis

("Robert and I argued about it and kept going back and forth until he finally gave in".) You should not have married him if you did not trust him, your marriage started off with you having to "make" him stop speaking with his ex, that's insecurity on your part and you should not have married him until those issues were resolved. It's a beautiful thing you have twins, was that a decision both of you made, or did you just happen to get pregnant on your wedding night? Everything happened so quickly. I enjoyed my man for 4 y

-Cheryl D

I was engaged to a women who lied about her phone conversations with her ex husband, got a copy of her cell phone bill and BINGO. I was correct in what I had been thinking. I cut confronted her and she still lied, I cut off the relationship and like "Jason" he's back. Wake up Black Women.

-TEX

What Im wondering is why is it ok for her to be friends with her ex, but not him to be friends with his ex? Its a double standard. Did she cut off all ties with hers, like she wanted him to do. I would have kept an eye on them to make sure they were justfriends. but she has to be willing to do the same thing she is asking him to do.

-been there

I hope I will not offend anyone but I do not think a man and a woman can be friends without it going to the next level. Especially if the man is attractive, has a good personality, is caring, has a good job, and takes care of his woman (wife) and family... The lady friend will more than likely want what the wife has and make a move on the man friend... So I think at some point in the friendship, it will go to the next level unless the man is gay or the woman is a lesbian.

-Nameless

4-22-08: I think since the friendship with the ex is causing problems for the couple, he should cease the frienship immediately. He should respect his wife's wishes. His wife should come first...her opinion and feeling should be priority. If the friendship is innocent, why is he telling lies? The lies indicate to me that there is something else going on. If you have to lie to your girlfriend or spouse about the friendship then that is not a good friendship to be in...

-Opinion #1

I'm recently divorce, and reason being is because my husband was freinds with two of his children mother and his 1st ex-wife. I notice the late night calls on his cell whenever one particular baby mother, would call and finding receipts of them going toeat among other things, well they end up having and affair and my husband and I got divorce. And I also believe my husband when he said he cut all ties lose but he kept on lying. Alexis make sure that all ties are cut.

-Peaches

--to finish up, I've been stung by the ex issue before, and from what myself and a couple of my friends have seen, there's only one reason why a guy keeps an ex around--as back up, esp. once things get rocky. He needs to tell ol' girl that he has kids now, his wife's uncomfortable with his contacting her, and she needs to cease contact, before the marriage ends before it begins and then there's joint custody.

-Anonymous

There are kids involved, and Becky should vanish! I mean, com'on, calling ol' boy on his wedding night? Even if it did involve his mom, it could've waited until they got back. I think she's using her connections to his mother to keep in touch with him. As long as there is an understanding that the man has moved on with his life, and she contacts him ONCE IN A BLUE MOON, things might be okay. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable until I knew that the ex has moved on herself and has a new man. I've been stung by the

-mita

i have to say i think she over reacted. i am a 47 year old woman who is still friends with my ex. we don't talk everyday but when i call or he calls its not about us rekindling what didn't work the first time, its about what is going on either i have a situation or he does and sometime i just need some feedback.

-cheryl from oklahoma

he and she both need to ask why they cannot share openly and honestly with another instead of with others. if something is missing between them that they seek outside instead of with one another there is a problem that needs resolving. outside friends are good but a real friend does not creat obstacles they create bridges.

-just a thought

It is absolutely a lack of respect and commitment to pursue a relationship with a woman when that relationship will damage your current relationship/commitment. If the pull towards the other woman is that strong...the evaluation of the meaning behind and value of it should have been made prior to commiting to another. Honesty with one's self can help to avoid dishonesty with others. Ask yourselves why the need to hang on to the exes. Ask yourselves why you cannot discuss those intimacies with one another. Ask yourselves

-understanding

All communication should stop period. Even if the husband or wife keep in contact with an ex's family. The two may not talk directly, but indirectly they still share a bond. It's very disrespectful because it's easy to get caught up in listening about how or what the other person is doing.

-Tired of this in Memphis.

hi there iam seeing this man for 2 yr he has a ex he email her sometime at first i was mad beause they have a lot in comom he get mad at me when i tell him how i feel now she dont call any more she like me beause she said iam what he need in alady at first it got to me now i dont care he said he love me an he not with her tell me what you think

-valorie

Robert, Would you mind if any of Alexis' exes call her at 2:00 in the morning? Respect goes both ways, do not ask of her what your are not willing to give to her in return.

-Ms. H

Why did Becky have to call him at 2 a.m. on his wedding night to talk about his mother. Why couldn't his mother call Robert herself with whatever problem she was having. I think that was very rude and disrespectful of Becky to do when he just got married. And whatever was going on with his mother could not have been still going on at 2 a.m. I'm not buying it. Robert needs to get it together and focus on his marriage and regaining that trust from his wife.

-C.M.

Yes I agree they BOTH need to stop talkibg to there exes, they have two kids it raise. They should be able to enjoy ther ebabies & there marriage, exes are not worth rippig apart a marriage. My husband use to talk to his ex-girlfriend all the time they ended up having an affair.

-X

Everybody getting on Robert's case about Becky but nobody saying anything about Alexis talking to her EX. Yes, I think it was wrong for Becky to call at 2am in the morning but if you read she is doing the same thing and Robert don't even trip.

-Paula

And calling someone at 2am on their honeymoon is too disrespectful. Robert and Becky both need to be slapped. His mama can wait. And why does Roberts mom still talk to Becky. A convo every now and again I can understand but this situation looks likeRoberts mama still has Becky's picture on the piano stand freshly polished. How is the bond between the mother and her daughter-in-law supposed to grow is she still stuck on the ex? My boyfriend does not call his exes and if they call him, HE tells me about it. No secr

-shannon

His lying is wrong but to me thats not the biggest problem. In a relationship, your HUSBAND/WIFE SHOULD BE YOUR BEST FRIEND!!! Unfortunately he is still emotionally connected to Becky and that is not fair to his wife. Emotional attachments are how relationships develop and they will redevelop if given the chance. AND if he is still flocking to Becky to talk, how will him and his wife allow their relationship to grow? He needs to decide whats more important, Becky or Alexis!!! Calling someone at 2am on their weddin

-Shannon

Relationships are about sharing. If the man is not revealing what his friendships are about and what he's doing, then he's hiding/protecting something, keeping something simmering on the back burner and he's lying by omission. There's a reason why lie and lye are spelled the same, they do the same thing.

-Anonymous

Ladies if you haven't met all of his friends, gone double dating, met his family, he's not that serious about you. I was in a serious relationship where one of my man's "friends" was dissing me to him. When that happens, the man needs to step up and say hold up this is my lady and everybody needs to respect that. Some women need to be checked.

-Anonymous

Some men think that "once I've hit it, I can always go back if I need to", that's why they keep these "old friends" around. Get in an argument and see who he runs to for comfort. That will tell the tale.

-Anonymous

Yes the problem is his lying. Calling your ex on your honeymoon night, come on now. That should definitely raise a RED flag. He needs to be building his relationship with his wife and mother and leave the ex in the past where she belongs, and that shouldn't be dealt with on his wedding night! Why do men think it's ok to keep x's around (especially those women that they have cheated with-are they sending hidden emails, making hidden phone calls (cell phones have taken cheating to a whole new level!) sending birthday cards, t

-Tricia

The problem isn't his relationship with his ex, it's his lying. If he isn't doing anything wrong, then why lie? He needs to understand that his lack of honesty has hurt his wife and their relationship. He is not bothered by her relationship with her ex because she has been honest about it. She deserves the same in return.

-Lies Have No Place In Love

I understand what Jean is saying and agree with him although his verbage is kind of off. I would not give up good friendships (female or male) for a mate. I would not ask my mate to do so either. If I am confident in myself and know what I do as a woman for my man is untouchable why would I worry about the next woman (Ex or Not)? I have no time. I have a job to do and that is to take care of man. Ladies we need to grow up and learn to be confident and get rid of petty thoughts. It's silly.

-Tricia

SOUNDS LIKE ANOTHER DBW TO ME: D-umb, B-lack, W-oman.

-TIRED OF DUMB BLACK WOMEN

why do we marry people we don't trust

-kenny

it I wanted be be with my ex I should have married her when you have a wife they all have to meet so my wife is ok when I talk with my ex we don't talk about getting back we are happy for each other and wish the best for each other

-kenny Thompson

One of two of by two best woman friends is my, she has been my ex for about 14 years, and one of my best friends for about 12 years and that is all it is. I have always told anybody that I got serious with about this before hand, and told her, that if this is something that they could not handle, then we could not be together. I would not give up a good friendship for anyone. Alexis should examine herself and see where, her lack of confidence in herself and marriage comes from. If Robert wanted to be with his ex, she would

-Jean

They both should leave their exes out of the picture, especially if there are no children involved. They need to communicate and confide in each other and not former lovers because they are no longer two, but one. Trust and honesty is very important inany relationship and especially marriage.

-Ros

I agree with Black Woman, the fact that she still talks to her ex was not acknowledged. They both need to apologize to one another and get past all of this. He obviously loves her and is willing to make this work and she needs to confront her faults and forgive him and move on. I think the reason he was so non-chalant about it was because she was still talking to one of her exes so he figured since she knew about her it would be okay, either way both parties were wrong.

-Lost in Love OHIO

I am in a similar situtaition. The guy I am currently seeing is divorced. He had met a women and dated for two years and are no longer together. However he considers her his best friend. I knew him all those years and just embarked on a relationship with him in 07. Even though he tells me she called me for this or that...I still feel uncomfortable and hurt. He says he still has feelings for her and that she holds a special place in his heart. However, if he wanted to be with her he would. He is with me and happy that

-unsure

She called him at 2:00 am on his wedding night. WOW. He is enabling her disrespectful behavior. No way in the world I would call any man at 2:00 am especially on his wedding night. That's disrespectful.

-bettyboop

Why get into a relationship with someone you can't trust. Robert was wrong for lying to himself (he never intended to stop talking to his ex) and to his wife. Alexis has major trust issues that have nothing to do with her husband's relationship. I can't understand why she thinks it's okay to talk to her ex but her husband can't

-Donna

I think that there both are wrong. And that they should apologize to each other. He's wrong for keeping in touch with his ex. Just because she gets along with his mother is no excuse. Momma, just have to understand, that there's a conflict with this. Or could it be that momma like the ex more than the other. You never know. On the other hand she is wrong for keeping in contact with her ex. It doesn't matter how much the ex has help out. You can look at this from all angles but the fact is they both were wrong. Since they cho

-Ms. Bell

It appears the fact that the wife is in contact with her ex has not been acknowledged...Stuff like this is why Black men say sistahs have a credibility problem. I know this Essence, but still...

-Black Woman

Exes are apart of life. We all have a past. If you really know no feelings exist I see no reason why exes can't be friends. I also think that it may be more comfortable for partners if they have met the individual and have a full understanding of what the relationship is like. After all knowledge is power! Just another opinion.....

-RDBW

TO ME I THINK ROBERT SHOULD LET GO OF HIS EXS AND START HIS NEW LIFE WITH HIS WIFE AND KIDS.YOU CANT TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME.LET IT GO!

-KJ

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM,I'VE BEEN GOING OUT WITH THIS MAN FOR 2YRS BUT WE KNOW EACH OTHER 3YRS 6MONTHS.HE HAS 2 KIDS WITH HIS EX,SHE CALLS ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT AND DONT WANT ANYTHING SHE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS WITH HER MAN.NEVER ABOUT THE KIDS.THEN THERE WAS A PROBLEM WHERE SHE CAME TO MY HOUSE TO HAVE WORDS WITH HIM AND BROUGHT A WHOLE BUNCH OF PEOPLE TO MY HOUSE AND CAUSED A SEEN ON MY STREET.THEN SENT HER BROTHER AND SISTER BOYFRIEND THE NEXT DAY TO MESS UP MY HOUSE AND MY CAR.I'M AT THE POINT WHERE ENOUGH IS

-KJONES

My husband is a minister and he has constant contact with the female species. Some of his exes and his sisters constantly call him for advice. He grew up with sisters so he has a passion for what women go through. Some men are good listeners and some women are good friends. I didn't think that a male and a female could have a platonic relationship but the fact of the matter some do exist. Trust your man and beleive that what God ordained no man can put asunder. That's what keeps me going after 20years of the same thing

-Brown Eyes, Fairfield, TX

Even though we wish there were never exes there are. I have battered mind and my thoughts over my husbands contant relationship with his exes but 20 years late he continues to reassure me its nothing. I do not like their communicating with each other buthe continues not to consider my feelings. He has neve given me any reason not to trust him but 1am and 2 am phones calls make it questionable. There should be a limit to friendship standards for respect of the other spouse/companion.

-Brown Eyes Fairfield, TX

So.....what about the part where his wife still talks to her ex? Is that another of today's relationship double standards that we as black men have to accept to be with one of the many wonderful sisters out in Essence World? When you sit with you girls and wonder why

-Dave

alexis you should put yourself in his shoes, but robert i would pray for him cause he has the problem now.

-Willa McNeil

Well I can understand both peoples issues and I think Alexis simply needs Robert to prove he loves her. I believe women get very jealous of other women period. When it involves being friends with their husbands, women get very insecure and often make more out of things than is there. Robert, like all men made mistakes in hiding or not letting the contact with his ex be known to his wife. Obviously if it's a platonic friendship and no feelings attached and it's about his parents, then there is no need to hide and lie

-majesti mind

This relationship sounds doomed. It's very troubling that the husband doesn't really acknowledged he has been lying to his wife their entire marriage. He just says "I had to talk to Becky." He's obviously gone through great pains to talk to this ex when his wife's not around. There's absolutely no reason he should have been talking to her on his wedding night, whether it was about his mother or not. The fact that his ex is involved in all this indicates she still has feelings for him, if she's talking tohis mother. I wonder

-Ashleigh

When you marry,you marry. Your wife should become your bestfriend. She should have the opportunity to be moms really close friends and/or bestfriend. Keeping a ex-girlfriend in your life communicating with your mom, is not acceptable. How would you feel if your wife ex- boyfriend was her moms bestfried. I truly suggest that you treat everyone the way you want to be treated. Marriage is not a game. We all know that keep someone in your life that you've been sexually involved with could possibly cause issues. Let's gro

-Lorri

I truly understand what Alexis is going thru, I have been in her shoes and it has gotten to the point that my husband and I are seperated. It is very painful and frustrating to know that the ex has so much contact and would have so much to talk about, after the relationship is over. I hope Alexis can get over it and move on, it is not a good feeling to be separated.

-dascruggs

Although I'm a woman and most women would want me to stick behind my sistas. I can't in his situation, simply because it was wrong for the wife to make her husband stop talkin to his ex yet she still has contact with hers. If you're going to be faithful its should be a two-way street. However, it was wrong for him to lie to her, but sometimes some wives can be a little bit too aggressive aout something that makes absolutely no sense. I trully believe they shold try seekin a counselor & communicate more on what are the value

-Shunta

The comments to mend the relationship are totally right on. But the one the writer forgot to include is to allow TIME to help heal the wounds. This story struck me because I've been through a similar situation with even more lies and disrespect than Alexis. I/we are working on moving past the issues, but it (and she) cannot be rushed into real honest forgiveness. He was 100-percent-spot-on to tell his ex in front of her that the conversations were inappropriate and over. But he cannot foolishly believe that by just saying it

-Tuesday

As a woman whom has been cheated on by a man who said that all his "ex's" were just friends, let me tell you that I was the one who ended up with a broken heart. Women have instincts and as SOON as your instincts tell you that your man is chatting with other women other than you about issues that he should be discussing with you...NIP THAT IN THE BUD THEN! I've learned that men who really want to cheat will do it no matter what and they will make up lies like "oh, she's just a friend" to make it seem like it's all cool.

-Bee-Roc

Hmmm....I guess I am the only person who saw the the wife was still communicating with HER ex. Why should the husband have respected her wishes or given them any creditability when she was conducting the EXACT same behavior that she was concerned about?? You either trust the person you are involved with or you do not. If you do not, then all the "rules" in the world will not make a difference. People are going to do what they are going to do, regardless of the "rules" you put in place. So, trying to control the behavior

-GoGoBear

NEVER LET ANY WOMAN AROUND YOUR MAN!!! MICHELLE dont be stupid he is not responsible for her just his child! why do you think the call them EX they shouldnt be involved in your life anymore

-Anonymous

I feel sorry for both Alexis and her husband. I feel the mistake he made was by not informing Alexis about the situation with his parents, who are her in-laws. Communiction and trust is very important in any and all relationships especially when it comesto marriage. Marriage these days is taken lightly and almost like a joke and it frightens me that nobody is honest these days. Marriage is sacred and people should start respectin their partner otherwise when things do fall apart to each their own, they need to look at thems

-Anonymous

I understand how Alexis feels. Right now I'm seeing a man who broke it off with his ex, to only move her back in the house. He has a four year old with this woman.The catch is, he feels responsible for her well being. This woman has no job or a place to live. He says he does'nt want his daughter living in a shelter. She had a place to stay,with her father.He insists nothing is going on between them. I feel she has been triying to get back in his house for months. Now our relationship is kind of at a stand still. I understand

-Michelle

Theirs is the challenge of everyone who has had their ESSENCE clouded with the one enemy of human kind: Fear. In this case as in all the challenge is to let go of the fear of not being loved. We are all love- that is all we are. Love is our ESSENCE. Have no fear that the love that stands before you will vanish. Love is, after all, eternal. Love holds no judgement. Love has no fear. Hold faith in love and tell your partner everything, good, bad, beautiful, ugly, indifferent. We are all worthy of the love that

-Eric

I completely understand Alexis. I started dating a man in August 2007 and he and his ex were still friends and he ended up cheating with her. A big confrontation between the 3 of us erupted and it's taking a lot of praying for me to deal with him and they still have the nerve to say they are gonna stay friends. I think that people should cut ties if there's still some emotion there, it's not fair to the new person.

-Understanding in Charlotte

I totally and completely understand why Alexis feels the way she does.I don't think it's so much about race, but more about trust. I am in somewhat of the same situation with my boyfriend right now, ever since we started dating a year and a half ago he'sstill communicated with several of his exes. Our situation came to head when he decided to continue coaching her son's Little League team. I seriously thought we were through but we worked through it, I had to decide rather or not I was going to trust him, because otherwise

-BlonPrincess

I can understand how Alexis feels because I'm in that same relationship with my boyfriends who has dated outside of his race most of his life. As a black female I can see agree with Alexis's husband by saying sisters don't like it when brother's date out of their race. My boyfriend had the nerve to invite his ex to his house when I was at work and told me she was there to say hi, (yeah right); I've found that they send SMS with explicit pictures of themselves to each other. So now I don't trust him at all because I've ca

-Blaqjewel

I think Alexis would feel better if she met her or held a conversation with her, she doesn't know anything about this women except that it is his ex whom which he still talks to. He never told her about his parents situation or whatever. Also Alexis can't expect for him to stop talking to his ex if she's still talking to hers, you need communication people!

-Candice

SHE IS STILL TALKING TO HER EX. Eventhough he stated it didn't bother him, it's not fair and she has no right to feel the way she does when she is doing the same thing. They need to agree and neither talk to exes. They lead to major trust issues........and eventually the relationship is damaged.

-lola

I am still friends with my ex. We were friends before we got together and just because the relationship do not work out does not mean that we cannot be the best of friends. It is already hard enough to find true friends than to just let one go because wethought we could be more. That is a lack of trust. Instead of pushing friendship away why not getting to know the ex and if there is something disrespectful going on then address that.

-Chanda

I think tha he should have cut all ties with his ex what in the past stays in the past no matter how close she was to his mom honestly i think he is lying just making up excuses to keep in contact

-michellea

I think that some can still be friends but their behavior has to be respectful of their companions. My SO continued to be friends with his ex and at one point when we broke up, the slept together. I didn't find out until after we married, but I've nevertrusted either of them since. I am not sure if they still talk but suspect as much. She can have him!

-Morgan

I agree that you should not be involved with an ex while in a new relationship- but that's only if there's no strings attatched.. My ex-fiance had two kids, so he and his ex (kids mom) talked.. and I knew that it was not always about the kids when they talked.. I don't think I would have ever knew if they talked about anything other than their kids... I mean, whenever he talked to her when I was around, it was strictly "The Kids" but it killed me that I didn't know what was said when I was not around-- so I had to let the b

-Black Beauty from IL

I didn't get to finish my comment. "...now they want to be best friends? I don't think so. I don't speak to ANY of my exes. At all. They have no reason to be part of my life anymore. Am I crazy?

-Ashley

My boyfriend is still friends with his ex and it is causing a complete riff in our relationship. It's like everyone is saying, "They're an ex for a reason." She should not be allowed to be any part of his life anymore. How am I supposed to get close to him when I'm sharing him with her? They talk very often and I tell him constantly that it bothers me and makes me very uncomfortable but he's not willing to give up his friendship with her. I know that they dated for 4 years but she cheated on him while hewas in Iraq and now

-Ashley

I think he should explain why he did and what he did. And she got an ex that she still communicate with that she should not be upset with hime, because like he said that is a double standard. If he can't communicate with ex no more neither can she. They both should apoglize to one another and somehow regain the trust.

-Katrina J. from Alabama

An ex can just be a friend. In my situation I still talk to my ex. I love my boyfriend more than anything and I tell him all the time. I make sure that he knows that he is more important than the ex. With my personality I have a lot of male friends and one just happens to be an ex. No worries.

-Lanette

An ex should stay an ex...as in, in the past. When you're trying to build a future with someone new, there should be no reason to have intamacy, connection, or anything with an ex. It only will complicate the new relationship that you're in when you bring in an ex...friend or not. New Realationship = No Ex's involved!

-Nicky

I believe you can be just freinds.. only make sure, it freindship that you are after or maintaining.

-sistergal

Complete double standard. I dont want you to speak to your ex but by the way I still speak to mine. A case of do as I say if you ask me. If you are not willing to follow your own rules, dont have them in the first place. And as usual its always the mans fault, no where in the analysis do I hear any mention of the fact that Alexis still talks to her ex!!!!

-Anonymous

Every ex is not a threat and if a person feels it's impossible to be remain friends with an ex, I would say that is a person with serious insecurities.

-Damion

met a guy. i am single he said he was single. we started dating. he introduced me to the family and all. everything was going well. then bam!! the started to rear her ugly head. when we are together she calls like a dozen times. on one occassion he left me for an hour and a half attend to her problems. and it just went on and on.spoke to him about it, told him i was not comfortable and he just igorned me. so i just ended the relationship and told him to make life with her. couple weeks after he told me that the reason i had

-Camille

you cant be just friends with an ex...those old feelings may eventually resurface leave no room for temptations..unless kids are involved they hey you have to deal with it set up some ground rules

-chrissy