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Thankyou for portraying this intimate interview between Sean and Kim. For some reason this interview seemed different to other celebrity interview which I have read in the past as it seemed genuine. I applaud Kim for being strong and believing in true love but also a fool for not being stronger when he left her for another woman. If after 12 years diddy is not ready for marriage then he may never be (which is the case for many black men), I dont think that this is a good portrayl for children of todaywho continue to have

-michelle - UK

i adored your interview with Diddy and Kim Porter, the photographs were amazing, and the story is truly inspiring but still realistic. It seems that Kim can stand on her own two with ease but is still willing to love and support her man from behind the scenes. She exemplifies what a southern woman is all about.

-Houston, TX

I've been married for 17years New York met the South. We met on vacation got married six months later and he strayed but I saw a man that was not show how to be a man or accept love so I waited patiently and he is the most loving man I've met. He feel in love and that is better. Kim I applaud you but marriage is good honorable with Jesus it is the same working. If you good to go through have the kids you even better as Mrs. Combs. It is give a take no perfect person is out here take it from someone who has friends divor

-Sharon Jones, Mississippi

Kim and Diddy let haters hate - that's their jobs!! Kim believes in standing by her man. She sees the good and the bad in him and still thinks he is worth it, but instead of praising her for that you dog her for not getting upset since he doesn't want toget married yet. Regular women put up with far worse than that and never leave or just go ahead and marry him. Sweep around your own door-step before criticizing somebody elses.

-Symone, Suitland, MD

It's a shame that in today's society that people can't appreciate two people trying to build a beautiful black family. No I'm not a diddy fan, but I am a fan of a black man trying to better himself. Sisters are always trying to dog a brother for the wrong he does, but never appreciates when he tries to do right.With marriages falling aaprt everyday, the last thing they need to do is get married if they aren't ready for that type of committment. Marriage should be for keeps, not for a year or two, or for the current season.

-TS Calhoun

These people are celebrities let them live their celebrity lives, its all about the spotlight. All we as onlookers can do now is to see how long their claim to 'love' will last. Anyone wants to make a wager???

-nej, london

Congragulations to Kim and Diddy, for growing up and working it out. we don't live in a perfect world I don't know why people expect your relationship to be any different, at least you are manning up and saying you did not know how to be a boyfriend, youare still learning that part, so why rush to be a husband. That's what love is about forgiving if one can, grow and learn 2gether, I gurantee you if he cheats again he knows it is over, right Diddy. Congragulations on the twins, sisters stop hating, at least the rican girl

-Sunshinepeach@yahoo.com

Essence should have titled this article, "The Love that Puffy Bought - Could he Also Be Your Daddy". I can't believe Essence wasted so much time on these two! Kim will have 4 kids by the end of the year and no husband! Can you say, where's my child support check!!!

-Yvette, P.G. County

Kim Porter is the prettiest "door mat" I've evern seen! Puffy (or whatever other childess name he wants to be called this year) has made it known that he does not want to marry her because he's still trying to be a good boyfriend? Kim accepts this by getting pregnant by him!! How many more children will they spawn together until he makes her an "honest" woman? And the nerve of Kim and Puffy to bring the "J-Lo" chapter into this saga! Puffy was mad dog crazy for J-LO. He kicked Kim to the curb for this diva! In all those mag

-Karen, Washington DC

I used to be a subscriber; after hearing so much about this cover and article I am mo' happy about the canellation of my subscription! If Kim Porter and Sean Combs were just your regular 'hood sister or brother they would have NEVER appeared on the cover much less get the extensive article! Disgraeful! Never was a Diddy fan, sho' ain't now!

-Non-subscriber

Let me be clear.. Crystal clear! I have a new found respect for Kim and Diddy. The are graceful and dedicated couple. They are demonstrating the true power of forgiveness. Love inspite of! And the crack shot at J. Lo is an added bonus! Big ups to KIM!

-Letrell

Continued...with it, educate herself regarding other cultures and stop having kids to try and keep a man!

-EG, Indianapolis

Continued...and beliefs because she didn?t know how to accept the fact that Mr. Combs had moved on to another relationship. Regardless of whether he ?really left?, he did and he moved on to a beautiful Hispanic woman, but, the relationship just did noork out. And why is the woman so quick to blame the other woman, you better get at your man, honey. Whatever it may be, Ms. Porter knows the kind of man she has, whether she wants to admit it or not. She knows what she has gotten herself into, so she just needs to deal wi

-EG, Indianapolis

I am not the type to post comments, but I had to comment on Ms. Porter?s ignorant words. I am Mexican-American, happily married to an African-American and I really don?t appreciate someone of her obvious influence, making racist remarks as she did in t article. Her mother and all those around her talk about how strong and how much poise she had in dealing with the fact that she was played to the left, but did everyone overlook the fact that she is racist? The fact of the matter is she had to resort to racist thoughts an

-EG, Indianapolis

Okay Ladies first let me say being with a man for almost 11 years before we ever said I do let's me tell you that men are like children. They know where home is and know that it is not going anywhere. My husband and I have a love that is kinda strange just like Kim and Sean's. She was a strong woman and never let the pressure hit her and for that I applaud her. There are so many single women today because we are so dominating to the point we run our men away. Now don't get me wrong i am not saying we should let them do

-SexZScorpio

I'm happy for the couple and it seems that she has forgiven him for his past mishaps. However, he is a little too old not to know how to be a "boyfriend"! That's just an excuse to hold on to what he has until he is officially ready to check out the game.Men!

-Crystal B

I think it's a shame that Kim Porter attacks JLO as a "little P Rican girlfriend"when it was her man who went after her.Sean and JLo went together for three years;he was the one who humiliated her,and trying to miminize who Jlo is is petty. It just goesto show you,money can buy you a house in the Hamptons but it can't buy you class

-Carol M

Now, now ladies! We all have been there, we cannot control who we love and we've ALL loved men who did not deserve our love. She has obviously forgiven him, I mean where would we be if it weren't for second chances in life? I'm not proud of the mistakes I've made, but I'm surely thankful for the second chances I got (just be cautious and stay alert to the signs). God said, ?Let he who is without sin cast the first stone". WHICH of you is without sin?

-TB, Pinole, Ca

I'm all positive about the relationship between Sean and Kim and Essence for running the story. Essence picked the right time to do this intreview. A time with no drama, nothing but love in their life. Within all that love they're expecting twins; this interview shows that some people can be in love just as much as a married couple and wait 20yrs. before they make it official. Sean did not grow up with a male figure in the house and maybe he's afraid b/c of the type of bofriend he's been in the past. Kim's parents divorced w

-Tina, Mississippi

This article was real and this couple let us in on their most intimate secrets. I wish them the best. I do believe he will marry her. We should be concerned with what is going on in our own backyards. African American men aren't the only ones with "baby-mama drama". We as black women are so concerned with the superficial things of a relationship that we are forgetting how to love our men, and show them support. P Diddy was right it is probably not easy to love someone like him. We want our men to marry us and not just make b

-Happily Married in Oakland, CA

To finish my earlier comment, it seems to be that with its long-standing reputation as an intelligent magazine addressing African-American women, that ESSENCE would have realized that there are no shortage of long standing wedded couples that could have better illustrated its cover subject "real love"; think Denzel and Pauletta, Samuel L. and LaTanya, Emmitt Smith and Patricia, and (yes) even Doug and Jackie Christie. SHAME ON YOU ESSENCE!!!

-Lora, Washington DC area

I'm still am disgusted and in shock over ESSENCE's decision to feature Sean "P. Diddy" Combs on its cover with his knocked up "baby momma" Kim Porter for the benefit of showing yet another Black man showing off and boasting about having more children with a woman he is not married to and has no intentions of marrying. It seems to be that with its long-standing reputation as an intelligent magazine addressing African-American women, that ESSENCE would have realized that there are no shortage of long standing wedded couples

-Lora, Washington DC area

Everyone is so happy that Diddy is with a black woman that their overlooking the big picture. He is not willing to marry her. If this would have been Jennifer, Kim, he would have already married her. Articles like this and how much disrespect Essence has given a once black womans voice to America is why I decided to stop subscriping after nearly 20 years. I continue to be hopeful but this is no longer a positive voice for the black woman

-Forever Hopeful for Black Women in Ameri

A lot of people think that Ms Kim was racist in her remarks and that she should not have been "waiting in the wings" for her baby daddy. I think she was being honest, and handled the whole Diddy-Lopez fiasco with dignity. I am glad he is back with her and so what if they are not married yet, its their relationship not ours. A marriage does not a happy relationship make or guarantee. Good luck to the two of you, and please continue to be good to each other. What these comment-makers say should not have any effect on your rela

-Mkhana, Bungoma Kenya

I wish them the best. It seems as if Puff is starting to settle down, and I agree, don't marry before you are ready. I have a family member in the same situation who did what everyone wanted her to do which was get married. Neither she, or the guy she was ready and as we speak, their marriage is falling apart. Kudos for waiting on the right time.

-Che in KC

Keep your mouth closed and I won't know how ignorant you are! Open it and let words flow like Kim and Sean did and I have to shake my head! They need to donate every one of those $315 million to the United Negro College Fund to help ensure that nobody else make such dumba** statement like they did in this article. In addition, its too bad that money can't buy them REAL love!

-Glad To Be Me

Keep your mouth shut and I won't be able to know how ignorant you are. However, open it and let some of the comments out like Kim and Sean did and I have to shake my head in disbelief! Not even $315 million can over the cost to correct of some of the statements they made! Where is the education, where is the spirituality, where is the love in this relationship? And the greatest of these is love! Heaven help us all!

-Glad I am not Kim

This article was one of the most ridiculous cover-ups I have ever read! Firs off Kim does not come across as a strong black woman, she comes off as the baby mama who hangs in the wings waiting for Diddy to do his thing. Why would you want to continue to have children with a man who clearly has told you and the world he is not ready to marry her but she's the love of my life?? Come on what that is saying is I'm gonna to do me and she will never be able to take half when I mess up. And her ignorant commentwhen she was asked i

-Kasandra

I thought the article was very nice. It's nice to see P Diddy with a beautiful Black woman. I wish them the best of luck. J. Graves

-Anonymous

I enjoyed the interview with Kim and Sean Combs. My only concern for her is that he may never marry her. I have a friend in a similar situation and I feel that as soon as she gets frustrated enough and leaves, he is going to get with someone else and marry her. I have seen where that has happened. I wish Kim and P. Diddy well and hope that they will in fact overcome all that they have been through, for their sakes as well as the sake of their children.

-T

I enjoyed the article, very interesting and great questions. It's very easy to be judgmental, but we don't live in their shoes. Sean could be with any woman who is interested in a rich, powerful man, but he has chosen to stay with Kim. While having a number of children out of wedlock is not morally pleasing to the public, there are so many things like gay marriages, swinging relationships, infidelity, etc that have corroded marriage. At least they are committed to each other for now. So many celebrities get divorced.

-Andrea

I think that getting married is a beautiful thing for two people. Yet, I believe that people should have the right to make their own choices especially in their personal life. I have a few friends who got married for all the wrong reasons. A lot of married couples have relationships outside of their marriage and are very unhappy. For example the recent article in Essence about couples that participate in the swinger lifestyle (hmmm). Therefore, I think that if Kim Porter and Sean Combs are both happy, then it's no business

-Steph, in nashville

No one can be mad at her for wanting to keep her family together but she is obviously dillusional. $315 million or not? Peace at any price is no peace at all. Kim, you are a gorgeous woman, go get a man that will marry you. He may not be Puffy but atleast you can have your self respect. Sad enough he said ?he?ll? get married one day. Not that ?they? would get married one day. Now to say that in a public forum was just tacky.

-Ro

I really enjoyed the interview and can relate to their situation. They appear to be two people who are very much in love.Congrats to you both.

-jan, in atlanta

I enjoyed the article and I think Kim Porter is a classy beautiful lady. Not all of us can be perfect....most of us are just trying to live our life and trying to get it right.

-Teresa

African-American women have spoken! The majority of us feel what this couple is doing is wrong in the sight of God, first, as well as how much it is damaging our community at large. This kind of behavior has to stop. There is nothing cute about it at all! Money or no money, fame or no fame. Enough is enough! It hurts me to see Essence make light of such a serious issue that has plagued our race for far too long! Shame! Shame! Shame!

-Hurting in Dallas

Poor people...not financially but definitely spirtually and mentally. I find it a little sad that we "honor" a relationship that is merely built off fornication. Where is the world headed? To hell. Kim spoke of a committment, there is no committment without a marriage. Keep it real as they say in the "Hip Hop" world. She also mentioned if P. Diddy went outside of their relationship he'd have to answer to God. As if she doesn't. When will our sisters realize that any other woman has just as much of a right to him as you do un

-Drea Muhammad

You know what? I agree that they should be married by now. Why are they still playing house. If his love is a strong as he says and she's his muse and all, what's the hold up? They are two grown people (well pass 30) and are still "boyfriend & girlfriend". I believe that he's holding out for what he feels may be better somewhere down the road. That's typical though. But hey, if it was me I probably would hang in there too, keep having babies, and get all I could get. P. Diddy is definitely the man!! Well and Kim is

-Michelle

SORRY THATS FOR ANN NOT KARA

-ME AGAIN BX,NYC.

STOP HATE....ING GROWN PEOPLE COME ON KARA COME NOW!!!!!!!!!YOUR A HATER GIRL BE HAPPPY FOR THEM AND DON'T NO BODY WANT JLO BUT MARK ANTHONY RIGT NOW ANYWAY HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!! PEACE....OUT!

-ME TOYA AGIN!!!!

AMAN! TO Nicole down there, we have all been through it with a MAN! And if you haven't your ashamed to tell it or your the women WHO DOES NOT TALK ABOUT IT SO WE'LL PROBALY NEVER KNOW YOUR STORY...... SOOO don't WORRY,JUST BE HAPPY FOR SOMEONE ELSE AND WISH THEM A LIFETIME OF PEACE LOVE AND HAPPINESS, IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS IN HOT WATER ACT POSSITIVE THINK POSSITIVE SPEAK POSSITIVE AND MOSY IMPORTANT BE POSSITIVE ON WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE IT LAST!!!!!!!!!! I AM HAPPY FOR KIM&SEAN IT'S G

-TOYA FROM THE BRONX NYC.

Kim, Kim, Kim you are too good. You are so sad. Demand that he marries you Kim. Be a real woman and get a job.

-Kara

Kim, P Diddy (Sean) is still playing you. You need to accept the fact that he really doesn't love you until he marries you, Kim. P. Diddy is always calling on God. Well, P. Diddy if you read your Bible you will follow God's words and marry Kim. However, maybe Ms. Kim is setting you up again twice. P. Diddy, I still believe that you are not over Jennifer Lopez because she left you. Kim believe it. He may have knocked you up again, but I believe that he is still in love with the beautiful Jennifer. Oh well, Kim you have to liv

-Ann

I am very happy for Diddy and Kim come on know since when marriage before children been an issue anymore. They are happy on their union and commitment to one another so let them be. People make mistakes forgive but never forget and move on.

-aangelface135

I am very happy for Diddy and Kim come on know since when marriage before children been an issue anymore. They are happy on their union and commitment to one another so let them be. People make mistakes forgive but never forget and move on.

-aangelface135

It is sad that WE AS black PEOPLE ARE SO JUDGEMENTAL HOW CAN WE JUDGE KIM FOR LOVEING HER MAN I GUEST NONE OF YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH ANY KINDS OF TRIALS WITH YOU MAN OH YEAH ! WE LIVE IN A PERFECT WORLD WHERE NO ONE MAKES MISTAKES .PLEASE STOP ! NO ONE LIVES IN A GLASS HOUSE!!!!!!!! GOD BLESS KIM AND SEAN

-NICOLE

I am happy for Diddy and Kim. They make a better couple than him a J-Lo anyday! This just shows you that no man is perfect and if he is willing to admit his faults, why shouldn't she forgive him? Why must we judge her if she has forgiveness in her heart?Everybody makes mistakes, so if you live in a perfect world, let me know where it is please....

-Miss Nichole Ohio

Kim, you aren't fooling anyone, you want to get married and if you wait long enough it just might happen. NOT! Monogamous tendencies isn't a behavior that changes with time, being monogamous for now isn't good enough, for always is. That my freind is whyyou he is not going to marry you. However, best wishes for you and your children.

-Anne - CT

GOOD ARTICLE, HOWEVER, WANTING TO BE A BETTER BOYFRIEND IS FOR TEENS. IF HE'S A MAN ACT LIKE ONE AND STOP USING COP OUTS. SHE'S SMART, BEAUTIFUL AND FERTILE. WHAT MORE CAN A MAN WANT? THE ICING IS THAT SHE'S CAPABLE OF FORGIVING AND MOVING ON. A MAN KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS AND TELLS US WITHOUT CONVICTION. SHE SHOULD BE HONEST, ROCK THE BOAT,AND TELL HIM WHAT SHE REALLY WANTS. WHO STICKS AROUND FOREVER TO BE A GIRLFRIEND. I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS AND IT HAS BEEN HARD AT TIMES BUT HE'S BEEN WORTH IT AND HE FEELS THA

-CHANDRA

I truly enjoyed this article. I feel that it was a well written account of two individuals whose relationship has prevailed despite trials and tribulations. The article showed Diddy in a more personable light as a man who, despite the power and the prestige, still struggles with the challange of sustaining a healthy relationship. I think that it's easy to say what WE would like to see them do, but I personally appreciated their honesty and if what they decide to do in their relationship works for them, it is not my place

-d

I liked this article. Diddy seems more personable and warm. However, I do believe Diddy and Kim are setting a bad example for their children. And I also believe that Kim wants to marry Diddy right now. What woman wants to have kids for a man and not wantto wear his ring? Since she is having twin girls, the couple really need to think about the picture they will be painting for those little girls. Kim should have took a stand early on in the relationship.

-Denae'

I think your article was well written but I am a bit ashamed of the conversation. I agree that should marry and not just for the sake of marrying but if they are good enough to continue to have children together they should marry. The direction of our community has enough bad examples in the world and with P Diddy & Kim being in the spotlight they need to serve as a better example - to their children as well. This is how cycles continue and our younger generation see this as okay.

-K-Alabama

OVERALL I THINK THIS WAS A VERY INTERESTING ARTICAL. I DO THINK THAT THEY ARE NOT SETTING A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR THEIR CHILDREN, BY NOT TYING THE KNOT. BUT THEN AGAIN EVERYONE IS RAISED WITH THE SAME MORALS AND VALUES. I JUST FEEL THAT IF KIM IS GOOD ENOUGH TO MOTHER "THREE" OF HIS CHILDREN THAN SHE IS MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH TO BE HIS WIFE!! I ALSO BELIEVE THAT KIM DOES WANT TO BE MARRIED, LIKE "NOW!" REALLY, WHO WANTS TO BE A "GIRLFRIEND" AFTER 12 YEARS? HOPEFULLY, THEY'LL BOTH THINK ABOUT HOW THIS REFLECTSON THEIR CHILDREN

-MESH

TAKE THE MONEY AND HIS STATUS OUT OF THE EQUATION AND THE LOVELY FORGIVING KIM WOULD HAVE BEEN HISTORY. ALSO, KIM IS NOT STUPID, WHAT DO SHE NEED MARRIAGE FOR WHEN SHE HAS THE KIDS WHICH EQUAL MORE MONEY, MORE MONEY, MORE MONEY!!!

-DEE

The article showed that we all have a human side, regardless of the size of our bank accounts. I believed Sean kept it real with what he was feeling during the JLO period and how he feels now. I applaud Kim for staying strong and following her heart. It takes a real woman to forgive, put the past behind you and work towards the future. It can and does happen to all of us daily in our lives. All relatiionships takes lots of work, we fall down, but we come back up; stronger and better.

-Crystal

I WISH DIDDY AND KIM ALL THE LUCK,RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD ENOUGH WITHOUT THE WORLD LOOKING ON.I PRAY THAT THEY GET MARRIED, SO THAT THEY CAN BE THE PROPER EXAMPLE TO OUR YOUNG PEOPLE..OUR PEOPLE ARE SO QUICK TO DEGRADE AND CRITICIZE..WE NEED TO START SUPPORTING AND BULIDING UP..

-PATRICIA B WILLIAMS

I have not read the essence article but have been following Diddy and Kim's relationship seeing how it is in many publications. I believe in God and make every effort to follow his principals of sound and wise living. With this said I believe Diddy should accept his responsibilies and marry the woman he proclaims he loves and the mother of his children. Has he ever thought Kim might not be ready to be the mother of twin girls, however, she is facing the reality head on and preparing herself to accept this challenge. In

-SKeys

It's an inetrview that is left for debate but I strongly feel Kim wouldn't be with Sean (Diddy) if he didn't have all that money. In the interview she didn't verbally come out and say she'll forgive him if he strayed once more but she states her reason for fidelity. So in other words he can sleep with any brenda, keisha and tracey but you'll always forgive him. She's a beauiful woman who he says he's deeply inlove with but everytime I see them together Sean (diddy) always looks bored even on the video onthe web page. And as

-Eishia Jones

So many people are slamming Essence for this article, but all they did was report on what Kim and Diddy said. Is it necessarily "Real Love?" Not by my definition, but to these two people, it is ...and that's what this article is about. Yes, it does send a mixed message of fornication and the union of marriage. But it was not the intention of the magazine to support what Kim and Diddy are doin, but rather present their story. What we need to do is pray for them and their family because they are accountable for what they do.

-essence should hire me

I thinks that he loves Kim on alot of levels, he excepted her child she had with someone else, the twins will bring them closer, but I doubt he will marry her, if he does I would be happy for them but very surprised, I think he really loved J-lo she loved him too, the media drama help both of their careers but it killed their relationship.

-Josie Englewood, NJ

I read the article and I thought is was wonderful piece until Kim made a comment about her children being around J.Lo. I am a Latino woman. If you see me you would say oh she is black, but my father is from Dominican Republic. That was an ignorant comment. I know she was probably upset, but the country is already divided, I think Kim needs to go to a library and read on Latino history. The ships landed there too my sister.

-Pat

This article is disturbing on so many levels. I am most disturbed by your caption of 'Real Love' on the cover. While I can totally relate to loving someone more than their faults and sharing a connection with someone so deep you honestly feel as if God designed them with you in mind, I still loved and respected myself enough to walk away in the face of infidelity and lack of commitment. Why should a man not "ready" for marriage still receive all the perks of having a wife without the commitment? Monagamy will never

-N.P.A, Charlotte

So we're telling our young women, especially teens, to hang on to your man, have his babies while he comes in and out of your life, just hold on until HE gets ready to marry you? Just because out-of-wedlock babies, infidelity, unscrupulous behavior is acceptable in society, do you Essence, have to glorify it?

-Annette Wilson

No, I'm not suprise of the LOVE they share for one another. In seeing, diddy(life of diddy) on VH1 and seeing him speak of Kim and interact with her. He exemplifies nothing but pure sweet and passionate love for her. They are truley blessed to have found that love in one another. Kim, I do agree that his relationship w/JLO was just for show and that "DIDDY"love and heart has always been with you, his family. God bless each of you and your children(twin girls also). Also push play 'SLAMMING'.

-ALS

When day you wake up and you realize that true love is not a fairy tale. It takes work, people cheat, they lie, they hurt one another. When it's true love, they forgive, they move past it and love one another more. In a way that is real and not based on a fairy tale. I commend Kim because I imagine that it has not been easy loving Diddy. I pray that what he says is true and that he really does love her like he proclaims too. Diddy would be a dummy not too.

-Diane Jones

One day you wake up and you realize that true love is not a fairy tale. It takes work, people cheat, they lie, they hurt one another. When it's true love, they forgive, they move past it and love one another more. In a way that is real and not based on a fairy tale. I commend Kim because I imagine that it has not been easy loving Diddy. I pray that what he says is true and that he really does love her like he proclaims too. Diddy would be a dummy not too.

-Diane Jones

We here in South and South-West Philly want to know is Diddy back with Kim because she has no clue about down low brothers. There are many rumors about Diddy and Al-B Sure. Does her men have to be the pretty boy type?

-Philly-Philly

We here in South and South-West Philly want to know is Diddy back with Kim because she has no clue about down low brothers. There are many rumors about Diddy and Al-B Sure. Does her men have to be the pretty boy type?

-Philly-Philly

This article is a disgrace! Sean Combs think he's God's gift to women, this being the reason he can't and won't grow up. As for the beautiful Kim Porter, she sold her soul for greed...You never give your all, while selling yourself cheap to a man who don't respect you enough to make you his wife. This article is not only sad, but it glorifys the acceptance of premarital sex and infidelity. Essence please seek ariticles with productive outcomes highlighting positive role models. There's enough drama in society today, without

-Tracy L. Bell - the readywriter

kim porter and Sean Combs are trying to achieve a happy couple/role model status which does not fitt them at all. The point that I don't understand is how can combs say he loves her so much and she completes him but not marry her. what ever happened to traditonal values? You fall deeply involve with someone , you get married and have children. Kim porter is just another one of combs so called (baby mama's). As for J.Lo she realized he was not the type of man to settle down with and so she left him. My advice to combs is to m

-Theresa

She settled....she had her own career going before Diddy...he broke her spirit...to think that it is o.k. for a man to be with other women and you sit back and wait is degrading. She is not an example of a strong black women and don't glorify the fact that she was the last one standing. That is why the man won't and shouldn't marry you.

-Terri

Love these extra quotes! Thanks Essence.

-K Robinson