What Men Think: Things Women Would Be Surprised to Know About Men
Real men tell what women don't have a clue about

“What would women be surprised to find out about men?”

What Men Think
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“Sex and intimacy are two completely different things for men. We can have sex without any intimacy and vice versa. When we arrive at the point in a relationship where we enjoy just hanging out without trying to seduce you, that’s when you know we’re actually into you.”
—Rich W., 28, marketing manager







What Men Think
Credit: John Gigliotti

“Sometimes a man might walk around acting as if he’s Superman, but he’s not, and he knows it. We have insecurities just like women do. Men wonder, Am I good-looking? Thin? Successful? Smart? If what you want is a man to really love you and truly trust you, do whatever you can to help him understand that he can talk about those things with you and not be seen as less of a man because of it.”
—Christopher G., 34, musician






What Men Think
Credit: John Gigliotti

“As a man, I’m always going to stand by my word. If I tell you I’m going to do something, I’ll do it. If I tell you I am going to take you somewhere, I will take you. You don’t have to remind me. I am a professional, and I pay attention. I’ll remember the details of our first date.”
—Yves P., 49, photographer






“We really hate it when you play hard to get. A lot of women won’t even approach guys. They just refuse to do it for some reason. I say go after what you want, and just tell him what you want! If he gives it to you, he’s into you. If he doesn’t, then he’s not really interested.”
—Christopher M., 36, design consultant


WHAT YOU SAID
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okay......,i will say somme things nice,iam the guy lakes women with good maniers,funny ,and resist to the bed ,i will offre gift evry session,i will satisfay her life,iam tired to wait,u can find me at the irish pub brogue in lake worth ,west palm beach,florida,ask the bartender for my name (borat the frenchy),i will love u , will give u my phne #and my moms # u will meet her in france

-spartacut

Okay.....I agree with all of them to an extent. I do believe that intimacy and sex is two different things. The problem is women, dont know how to diffrenciate the two. Because we women are so emotionally intune, when we find someone that interests us, "bam" there it goes, head over heels. and im not speaking on he behalf of all women but some because we all have played the fool. One thing that i can say that i have learned from men at the age of 22, was that no matter what, if a man doesnt have himself together mentally, sp

-ce-ce

In the past I confused sex for love. I felt if this guy is willing to be that intimate with me, he must love me. The person I lost my virginity to had feelings for me but was afraid to have a relationship with a black woman. What was he doing with me in the first place. Guys who play these games with women are in for trouble. Women need to stop getting hung up on these men.

But all in all when you are in love you can really feel your heart breaking.

-Bev Gee

My acupuncturist left to take a teaching job and has a couple of guy friends who are also acupuncturists. I chose one of them while she is gone. This guy is gorgeous! I know he has a girlfriend but never talks about her. Even though he is suppose to be professional he held my hand tightly while taking my pulse one day. Now I like him even more but I'm afraid to cross that boundary. I gave him a bookmark with nice words on it. It basically said how wonderful and amazing he is. He loved it! We have also exchanged glance

-Bev Gee

In response to the comment, "No woman should hyphenate her last name. If you marry the man, you take on his name. Period. No hyphens please." You must understand that a GOOD NAME is to be chosen rather than great riches, Loving favor rather than silver and gold. Before a man shares his name with a woman, he needs to make sure that his name is GOOD.

-Anonymous