Sex and Monogamy Survey
Can Black men and women really be monogamous? Essence wants to hear both sides of the story: male and female

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Please take our brief, anonymous poll and tell us about your relationship experiences - then encourage your mates, friends and family to take it too. The results will appear in an upcoming issue of the magazine. Thank You.

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-5 latest comments

Yes i fell good things comes to those who wait im old fashion friends first if you jump to fast and something were to happen at leaset the friendship stands a chance some men wont admit they respect a women more if she waites it show values self confident shows who she is 5min of so called heaven can take you to hell

-joanne

I still believe in love at first sight, but the thing is does he? I believe before you commit you should find a little out about this person,by asking them of course and if you find out this person has not been totally honest, then let him go, or don't even waste your time, because time is too precious. It has taken me years to figure this out through my own experiences, if it is meant to be you will know it and feel it. Shine on I say, life is about living not giving up on one man.

-gaylene

I think that waiting for that right person is very important and if you respect yourself and your body then it shouldn't be difficult at all. You don't want to share something so wonderful with just anyone. Waiting for that right person will only make itbetter for the both of you. You: because you have waited for someone that really means something to you so it'll be extra special and the man because he knows that you have been waiting to find him.

-Maria

It begins with what you think of yourself .If you respect yourself you're not about to be sleeping around .Secondly ,sex should not be the basis for a relationship .Love ,marriage then the physical and it will be so much more special .Something just thatone person can give to you because its more than sex ,it really becomes making love .Monogamy is rewarding.

-Erica

I believe that a woman can be monogamous if she puts all of her trust in God. If she really cares for the man and he cares for her, both should be able to discuss their feelings about sex. Sex before marriage is dishonorable before God. Today, that isconsidered old school and no one wants to hear it. But, trust me, it can be done.

-princess