I totally agree with ms chocolate!!!

I still dont see how Oprah's friendship with BeBe hurt his ex wife!

Oprah would not be considered as a true friend. A true friend would not take sides but attempt to help the both of them through a time like this. Oprah needs a life, she has become above reality.

Oprah is only human.

I am not the least bit surprised. Not everyone like Oprah

There are a lot of men and women who think they can push buttons. I'm not talking about those who have being abuse for no reason, and the man is using them for punching bags. But to try and make a person's life a living hell, because of jealousy, or I'm going to get you back for whatever reason. That person is just as sick, as the abuser. BeBe wife is looking to get paid, more than what she settle with. Same thing with Usher's wife. I'm telling you check those red flag! It's more to a relationship, than just I love you. Now days you don't know what kind of messy-mess you'll get.

No one needs a beat down. You women have to know if you slap a person a gut reaction is to hit back. I know mine is no matter if you are male or female, but to continue to fight until the person is beatdown is outrageous and no one should come out of a situation with even a black eye. NO one. You women who are trying to "take responsibility" for what, a beat down is stupid, rediculous and exploition of domestic voilence. I didnt like whippings from my parents as a child and I definitely dont believe in beatdowns as an adult. You women better recognize. It may be part of our slavery but it doesnt exist in my life and I left my marriage early on to ensure it wouldnt happen again. I deserved better and I made sure I left the first time it happened.

Who in the (bleep-bleep) is Oprah? Domestic Violence can be from either spouse.

Oh my goodness! Leave these people alone-why would anyone want their business in the lime light like that for any other reason but to hurt the other person. Trust God to deal with them-and these are people in the church-come one! Great that Oprah is taking a stand against it-but no one has a right to judge but God-period.

I don't know, but it seems to me that Ms. Winans is reveling in the "hoopla" surrounding this issue....I mean, why is she releasing statements to TMZ??? I just feel that's so unnecessary. Oprah made a wise decision, and as some said, she took a stand against domestic violence...but let that speak for itself. There's no need for Ms. Winans to keep fanning the uproar...Makes me question her motives: Are they pure & humble or are they more like "Get back at Bebe?" I wish them both well, and I pray this situation works out for the best.

As a black woman, I think it's time that we accept responsibility for domestic violence that we sometimes cause, too. First of all, there is a difference between being a strong and caring black woman and just being a strong, nasty black B, and it's time most of us black women learn to notice the differences between the two. If you are a loud mouth, fighting drama queen yourself, then don't be surprised to encounter a man who won't walk away when you are having your moments and beat your behind. Any woman with good sense know that most true female victims of domestic violence are usually scared to even talk while the abuser is around and certainly not known for trying to stand toe to toe with a guy in arguments, cussing him, stabbing, kicking, and slapping. Only drama queens do that in disputes. To finish, my father raised me to be respectful of myself and others which may explain why I, as a black woman, got it right the first time.

i am very sad in reading alot of these posts violence is violence alot of the posts make it seem to me that its ok to push a person down and that its not considered violence someone even said get up and push him back we as a people black white purple green or red should not have this type of thinking this is why so many young girls and boys think oh he/she did not hit me they just pushed me its ok please people wake up this is how it starts i pray for everyone here

It is amazing that everyone of these postings are how everyone other than the man has a problem. It doesnt matter if you are purple NO MAN should put his hand on a woman PERIOD!!!I am proud that if Oprah made the chioce to say No that we as woman should thank her because it will get us (woman) closer to freedom. It has nothing to do with it he is bad or good as whole "its a bad choice" that he make and he should feel the mental blow of it. I feel sad for the woman that think that she has to live with this. I say this because I did! and I believed that I was the problem. Woman we have to stand together or we will lose more of us to a hand of a lover to death!

As observers we tend to be overly judgemental. We need to work on healing in our own communities, if not, we leave an open forum for idiots like carmella to comment and speculate. Just because you date a few, maybe hundreds of Black men doesn't give you any more insight on "the Black experience"! Nor does it enable you to save the entire Black male race from the evils that are us Black women. You sound hateful, disrespectful and have no clue what so ever! These forums are for individual views to be shared...your views have no validity nor credibility! Because you want to chase around Black men, what does that have to do with Bebe Winans and his Ex? Let's be honest, call a spade a spade! I'm almost certain, you're the same type of female that will post on another topic stating how extra-marital affairs are one-sided also! Just plain foolish, and a little sad that you honestly believe such nonsense! To Sweetpeach...speak for yourself, do you actually watch tv much??? It's unfair to catergorize or lump every Black woman in one category! All any of us need to do is pray for this situation, as well as the feeble-minded!

did anybody every ask debra what she did...honestly you are a grown woman...if he pushed you why didn't you push back...he didn't smack you, hit you or punch you...he pushed you..you may lost your balance and fell..who knows but you...my thing is DEBRA YOU WANT SOMEONE TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOU..YOU WANT HIM TO LOOK BAD BECAUSE HE LEFT YOU..I SEE WHY HE LEFT YOU...