Tia Mowry-Hardict is one of those actresses who feels like your best friend in your head, even if you’ve never had the pleasure of meeting her in person. Her down-to-earth personality shines through every role she plays, from Tia Landry on Sister, Sister to Melanie Barnett on The Game
While she’s always been stylish and charming, wisdom is a trait Tia developed over time. Long before the mega-fame, the actress and mom was a young teenager who experienced what she then thought was the most embarrassing moment of her life in front of the R&B/soul quartet Shai—her crushes at the time.
Recently Tia spoke with ESSENCE about the incident—where her feminine products fell out of her pocket while greeting the group—and what she’d tell her teenage self if she could go back in time, as well as the moment she became comfortable talking about Aunt Flo.
“[If I could go back in time] I would tell myself it's okay. It's normal,” she said. “I was 14, 15 years old when that happened and I would have just been honest about it. I would have been like, ‘Oh my gosh, sorry guys.’
She went on to remember just why she was afraid to talk about her period back then.
“It [a period] was kind of like I said that secret,” she said. “When you would get your period and you would go to the grocery store, even still sometimes to this day, they put it in a double bag it’s something that we shouldn't necessarily feel free or open to talk about.”
All in all she credits the push of opening up about the once taboo subject and how beautiful it is, to her husband and becoming a mom to son Cree.
“After getting married, when I saw that my husband was okay with it I thought, ‘well, okay, he's not feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable about it so why am I?’ I was more sensitive and insecure about asking him to go get the tampon than he was about getting it,” she said.
“The same thing happened when I had a cesarean and I had a cesarean scar. I always look at it and I remember the moment of when my son was born. It's beautiful to me. I never look at it and feel ashamed. Never. I don't feel ashamed that I didn't give birth naturally. It doesn't matter how your baby comes out. It matters you're okay and your baby is healthy. Celebrate life. Let's not focus on how your child came out and who gets brownie points and all that kind of stuff. I think seeing my husband embrace everything like it was no big deal and then me having a child is when I just started to really embrace all things womanhood and being a woman. It's so amazing and beautiful.”