You've seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel All Alone in Their Marriages, keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show Braxton Family Values. Now it's your turn to sit in her chair...
Dear Dr. Sherry,
I've just started dating a man who is in a relationship with another woman and they've been together say six months. She is currently married. For the past two weeks he has come home to me every night and our sex life is excellent. Do I love him? Yes. Am I in love with him? Yes. He says the relationship that he has with her isn't going anywhere because she has made it clear that she won't be leaving her husband. Please tell me what to do. Should I just sit and wait for what they have to be over? Or, should I just walk away while our relationship is still young? My heart tells me to leave this man alone, but my head just won't follow my heart. Please help!
If your heart is indeed telling you to leave this man, you should run, and run fast! Unfortunately, you are not thinking clearly with your head or your heart. You are thinking with your vajayjay right now. You are not the first women to fall victim of thinking this way. Usually, this is a temporary thing but you seem to be looking at this man as if there is still some long term potential here.
Which part of this are you having difficulty understanding? This man is a player and you are being played big time. He has told you that he is with another women. The other women is smart enough to say that she is not leaving her husband for him, yet you are waiting for him to leave her for you. Really? I am sure the sex is "excellent" for you as well as for the other women too. Think about it. If you just want a “cut buddy,” he is the perfect guy. But if you want more, he is definitely not the one. You must seriously question yourself about why you’re in love with this man. You barely know him and what you do know may not be very lovable. It’s highly likely that how he treats the other women in his life is how he will ultimately treat you. You are assuming that his affair with the other women will end. Even if it did end, you must understand that there will be another woman. What you see now is what you get later. My question is, why are you accepting and settling for someone that is not available to you? You must believe that you deserve much more than this man has to offer. Once you do and understand your personal value, you will refuse to settle for less than the best. – Dr. Sherry
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