You've seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel All Alone in Their Marriages, keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show Braxton Family Values. Now it's your turn to sit in her chair...
My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend. He cheated on her before, but that was not the reason why they broke up.
Her best friend and her ex boyfriend are now getting really close—I think a little too close. It bothers my friends, and I told her that if her best friend really understands how she feels about this but she still chooses to date her ex, then she s not a true friend.
I have comforted her and listened to what she has to say about this situation, but I wanted to know if there is anything else I can do to make her feel better?
Maddy, Maddy, Maddy, why are you all up in your friend's business? This is not your issue. You must separate your issue from your friend's issue. I’m sure you care about your friend, but she is a big girl and she can decide what she wants to do to feel better. You asked if there is anything you can do to make your friend feel better. Yes there is, you can step off.
Your friend must decide for herself if and how she wants to deal with her relationship issues. While she is your friend, she is not your best friend. I have to wonder if this is the real problem. Could what’s really bugging you be that she identified someone else as her best friend instead of you? I’m sure it must be frustrating given that you see backstabbing behaviors from someone that you feel is not really a " true best friend.” This may be true, but the fact of the matter is that it is really not any of your business. The best you can do for your friend is to be supportive without adding fuel to her fire. Let her put her own fire out or you could get burned too! – Dr. Sherry
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