I've been wanting to write on this topic of men on the Down Low for a while. Before you go there, NO, I have not, to my knowledge, been involved with a man on the DL, so fortunately, I don't have a Terry McMillan story. But the very definition of "down low" is when a man secretly engages in sexual relationships with other men. As the key word here is secret, do we ever really know... Here's what you had to say: Andrea commented via Facebook: "[Down low] is a reality and it as to be discussed." Gitane wrote via Facebook: "It's a darn shame that men have to lie about what or whom they really want."