Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Feeling disrespected Hello, Steve and Shirley: I would like to know what you would do if your husband took his ex-girlfriend on a trip to Vegas for her birthday? For my birthday he may have spent a total of $60 on me. This ex-girlfriend is supposed to be a good friend who dates women now. They were gone for three nights and slept in the same bed. He went knowing I knew who he was taking. He kept saying he was going for a training session for work and she was just passing through and I was just being insecure and that I don’t trust him. Steve, I’ve never felt so disrespected in my life. We are all supposed to be Christians. He is a well-respected deacon in the chucrh and she still belongs to the church also. You don’t know how hard it is for me to still have to face this woman and still hold my head up high. Also, I was three months pregnant at the time. Steve, this woman has was been in our marriage from day one. An ex is just what it is — ex-communication ex-everything. I love him so much, but only the grace of God and my relationship with God and the vows I took with this man keep me from walking away. Steve, I have forgiven him, but I cannot forget. Every time I see this woman I think of how my husband put her feelings before mine. What should I have done in this situation? My family said I was crazy. I know you are going to tell me some real talk.
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