Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter
" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show
," heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: Damaged by a serial dater
Good Morning Morning Crew,
I am a 27-year-old who got caught up in a web of lies and deceit. I feel like I was an assistant in an Houdini act. My now ex-husband turned out to be a serial dater. He had at least 17 girlfriends that he met on a myriad of Websites and other venues, seven additional children that I did not know about and lived in a neighboring state to our home. He used his military career as a means to maintain his extra relationships and as an excuse to be away from home for weeks maybe months at a time. I came to find out he was discharged from the military three months into our marriage and was lying to keep up his deceit. Now I am in a new relationship with a great man and my perception of things won't let me fully trust him. I am afraid that I will lose him if I don't stop checking his phone, e-mail, mail, whereabouts and friends' location. In other words, I need to stop trying to become his shadow. He knows of my past relationship and is being very patient with me, but I fear he will grow tired of me because he has given me no reason to have to check up behind him like I do. Please help!