American satirist H.L. Mencken once called adultery "the application of democracy to love." If only marriage were as simple as allowing your spouse to exercise their democracy. For many, infidelity is the ultimate betrayal of trust and family. It doesn't have to be seen as such, says psychotherapist, Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic." In an interview with Babble.com, Perel argues that an affair may actually strengthen a marriage... Here's what you had to say: Shay commented: "Expecting your spouse to be perfect is ridiculous but to say that cheating may actually help your marriage is pure bs." Pauline wrote via Facebook: "Infidelity could be a wake up call to the husband or wife...a lot of times men and women don't realize what they have until it's gone."