Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter
" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show
," heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: I'm a single mother now
Hello Steve and the Crew, I am currently a 22-year-old college student. I have a two-year-old and I am pregnant with my second child. I am still in a good position to finish college even with the second baby, although I work part time and go to school full time. My children's father and I were married for almost five years. Last year we were in the process of going through a divorce but decided towards the end to attempt to keep the family together one more time. This is when I conceived again. At first he was reluctant to keep the baby but agreed not to abort it. Since then I have prepared for the baby (clothes, diapers, childcare arrangements, etc.) by myself. My family is helping me with my first child until she has to go back to school. At the beginning of the year my now ex-husband finalized the divorce and didn't tell me anything--not even that he wanted to continue the divorce. And then he moved in with another woman, whom I suspect he was cheating on me with. He told me he does not want anything to do with the second baby; he will only be a father to the first. I can go on and on but I don't want to overwhelm this letter. He says the only way he will participate with the unborn child is if I get a paternity test and put him on child support. This is devastating because we both grew up without our biological fathers. We will survive without him, but I wasn't expecting for my unborn child to not have his father. I really messed up, what should I do?