Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter
" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show
" heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: Is the player getting played?
Dear Morning Crew, Here's my dilemma. I'm seeing a friend who I work with. I'm separated and she's divorced, but has an actual boyfriend who is kind of well off. I'm just a working man. She and I get along and have been hanging out for a long while. I do more for her than I do for myself. We exchange a lot of emotional confessions to each other and I'm her secret
. No one at work knows and neither does her family. Most guys wouldn't openly admit how they feel about a woman, but I'm not most guys. I love and need her. I'm in my early 40's and she's in her late 40's. The problem is she wants sex from me and nothing else. I've tried to get her to go out with me, but outside of sex and shopping for me she doesn't want anything from me. She's given me a car, clothes and money but won't let me do anything for her. We argue about it. Most men would say I'm a Black man who's got it made, but I'd truly give it all back if I could only have her heart. She says I have it, but I don't feel that way because she's dating some rich dude and keeping me as a secret. I truly love her and, being a former player, I need to know how to handle this. Keep it funny, Steve. I'm a little on the emotional side. To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here