The recent and ongoing media discussion of single Black women and our supposed slim chances of getting hitched has caused us to focus a lot of our attention on marriage. But what if it's not for you? A lot of sisters are enjoying the freedom and self-exploration that the single life has to offer and could care less about marriage rites. Staying focused on finding a husband might cause you to "miss all the enjoyment and personal development opportunities that dating adds to your life," says JJ Smith, author of "Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating." She explains us why she's chosen to be a Dating Diva rather than a Mrs. Whatever. Read More: Stop Stressing Marriage and Have Fun DatingThe Dating Diva on Dating Like a Pro Here's what you had to say: Dawn commented: "Personally I don't want to get married. Call me selfish, but i can't see myself giving up my independence to make someone else happy." D wrote: "If you choose a career over love and think that you can't handle both, then I guess marriage would not be for you. Most of us can handle and make time for both, just like we make time for everything else in life."