You know the moment when you realize that fine, accomplished brother is with a White woman? Let's call it "the wince." Three-time Grammy Award-winning artist, writer, actress, philanthropist, mother and all-around Renaissance woman, Jill Scott gets to the root of our feelings on the matter in the April issue of ESSENCE... Read more: "Why Did I Get Married Too" New York PremiereJill Scott Joins The Cast of 'Law & Order: SVU" Here's what you had to say: AJ commented: "As a black male, I empathize with the feelings of black women. However, I will not allow myself to restrict who I am with based on history. The notion that we must seek a partner based on race, rather than emotion, is what I fundamentally disagree with." Kelly said: "Thanks Jill. I think you nailed it. Our history and community dynamics just make it hurt, even if what hurts is the fact that he is just a man in love."