Every day we feature the beloved "Strawberry Letter
" franchise that is so popular on "The Steve Harvey Morning Show
" heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today's topic: Should I accept being a secret?
Dear Steve and morning show, I am a 28-year-old lesbian. I have been dating this woman for almost two years and I love her to pieces. Here is the situation: she hasn't told her family about us yet. Now don't get me wrong, she has taken me around her family plenty of times and her family loves me but I feel like I am looked upon as the "gay roommate" who may have a crush on her. She is really close to her family and she cares a lot about what they think of her. My issue is that I am at a point in my life where I want to move to the next level. I want a family and I would sometime soon love to marry her but I don't see how that is possible if she is scared to tell everyone who means something to her about her lifestyle. Whenever I attempt to speak to her about it she kind of blows me off, saying she is not ready or that I met her like this. With all this being true, am I fighting a losing battle? I just feel so stupid when I am around her family lying to them about just being her roommate and always having to be around her ex-boyfriend because he is always around her family. It is just a super uncomfortable situation and I am asking you if I should just accept the fact that she is never going to come clean and leave her alone or should I fight for our relationship? Please help... To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here