As an ESSENCE.com woman, you probably know of the four "Will You Marry Me?" couples, and seen the stories of how they met and fell in love. But you may also be wondering to yourself, "Why not me?" Dr. Michelle Callahan, TV host, psychologist, and author of dating guide Ms. Typed, says it may be because you are not you--not the real you when it comes to romance, that you may be sabotaging yourself with men and not even realizing it, that you are "Ms, Typed." And, as an African American woman you could be particularly vulnerable to losing your best self in the dating game. Read more: The Dating Diva On Dating Like A ProMen Say "You Should Hit On Us"