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Role Reversal: Oprah Pays Her Mother's Clothing Bill

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Okay, so Oprah, reported paid her Mother's ridiculous clothing bill. What's the big deal? Some folks feel like Oprah should have automatically shelled out close to one-hundred and fifty thousand dollars just because she has it in her billionaire bank account. Others believe that it was her mother's responsibility to settle her own debt. The truth probably lies somewhere in between and honestly the deal should be private between the parties involved.

The situation does highlight the difficult relationship between mothers and their daughters, a stormy course for most of us at one point during our upbringing. Daughter's act out and mother's act out in estrogen-fueled ways. Thankfully, most daughters regain their senses during the late teenage years. Most mothers become cool again around the same time.  

Coincidence? Probably not. Oprah has detailed her past history of sexual abuse, violence and the like. I'm sure that at some point in her life, she realized that mothers are supposed to protect their daughters, and it appears as if her mother did not provide her with the security that she deserved. Exposure to such intense vulnerability at a young age is not optimal. Survival in the world depends on whether you can float, sink or swim, clearly Oprah did much more than that. However, her old wounds still feel visible and no doubt are aggravated by events like this.

There are millions of young women who have also turned their personal tragedies into incredible displays of triumph. When one is able to do that, they are entitled to forgive, forget, honor or disavow anyone, anytime they need to. At some point, you get tired of hoping that your family member 'gets it' and  you have to keep your own life moving.

Mother and daughters are bound together by blood but not always choice. The ease of the relationship is often softened like well-worn leather by use, wearing, and sweat. It requires a willingness to work and also love and forgiveness. Not easy, just like the decision to pay off debt belonging to someone else. Hey, in some ways writing a check may be easier.
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